How to deal with developing feelings for friend though you’re in relationship

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I’ve been with my girlfriend for few years, we’re quite serious. I recently have been on a business trip for 2 months, and I haven’t seen her. While away I met someone else who I’ve just been friends with. I am feeling guilty however because I find her attractive and am starting to develop feelings. I tried talking to another friend about this to get his opinion but I felt his advice was horrible (can have a home gf and an away gf..!) I figured I wouldn’t follow that advice.

I’ve also been realizing that I’m not so happy in my current relationship, figured that might be a reason why I’ve started to develop feelings for someone else. I’m confused, but over all I feel guilty and horrible about myself. My friend says I’m over thinking it, but it doesn’t take away from the fact that I feel just horrible about it..

Category: Tags: asked July 18, 2013

4 Answers

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Just know that humans aren't meant to be monogamous you are bound to be attracted to other people no matter how 'in love' you think you are. Maybe by lusting or desiring another person you've realized you're unhappy in your relationship, so if you are unhappy end it. But maybe it's a mixture of loneliness and a lack of physical contact with your girlfriend that you're feeling this way. Anyway it's your decision, think about what will make you happier, either pursuing other women or staying with her. Have a good one.
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It is perfectly normal to feel attracted to other girls. If you do not want to develop feeling for her, stay away from her. Work to improve your current relationship.
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It could be anything. Maybe but only if you feel up to it. You might be attracted to someone else. But if your happy with your relationship then continue it, if not then just go with your heart.
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Maybe it a good thing that it proves that you are not happy in your relationship. I would talk to your gf and tell her your not happy and why. Then you will know if you sort it out or you need to go separate ways. Good luck and don't cheat as you will ruin everything. Even if you end up with the new girl the cheating may effect that relationships.