i know the source of my anxiety – a guy. specifically, my ex boyfriend. i havent talked to him in over a year, but yesterday i saw him while getting lunch and i was overwhelmed with anxiety and nervousness. i talked to him last night and I might have feelings for him again? The reason I broke up with him was because I was depressed. I think I want to get back together with him now that I’m a million times happier, but the problem is that I don’t know if my friend likes him too or not. I don’t want to risk losing her as a friend, but I fear my feelings for him are to strong. PLEASE HELP!!!!! I don’t know wether to try to get back together or respect that my friend might like him.
If she's truly your friend, you'll be able to talk to her openly about your feelings and thoughts. Also, she'll be open to answer if ever you ask her whether she likes your ex or not. Have constant conversations with her because communication is very important. Let her know as well what your plan is when it comes to your ex and if she does seem to like him, ask her if it's okay or if there's anything she can suggest that you do. Try to be open, honest and understanding about the situation of the both of you just in case she likes your ex. :)
Sounds like classical ex-partner syndrome. I'd say it's nothing to worry about. It seems really irrational but it happens to the best of us. I think if you have the power to realign your focus away from him -- particularly if you have no reason to believe these feelings are mutual -- then you'll invite new and better people into your life. Good luck.
I think what you should do is talk to your friend about it, and if they are truly your friend, they should be open about what's happening. Talking about the way you feel with your friend is probably the best way to go, since it may sort out any questions about the situation, hopefully. I wish you the best of luck :)
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