How to be heartless, emotionless, cold-hearted, apathetic, etc?

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I wanna know how to become cold-hearted, unemotional, heartless and apathetic because I don’t wanna feel pain anymore. And I don’t plan to have a husband or family. All I want is to be a workaholic and be heartless to the point where I don’t talk to anyone at all… I don’t want attention or questioning and I’m tired of always being hurt. I refrain from drugs because I’m not a moron. And I wish all my feelings vanish instantly. Also, I don’t care anymore what the cost is. Does anyone know how to please tell me.. DON’T TALK CRAP BECAUSE IT’S JUST WASTING MY TIME AND YOURS!!!!!

Category: asked November 18, 2014

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It's pretty simple, actually. You just have to find a profession that's more meaningful to you than the possibility of a relationship or friends. You can bury yourself in that because it fills the space that's usually filled with other people. You do kind of have to be open to the possibility that you might change your mind someday, but you're not burning any bridges by ignoring that until you're 30 or so.
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There are only few people who are heartless in the world. we all have emotions and you can never get rid of them they are a good thing. From my own experience when someone has done something really terrible and its really upset me. I know deep down i am upset and probably in shock for the day, but now i am able to forget the day after and be myself afterwards, but it took time. If this is what your getting at, I think its something which i have developed over years of being mistreated by people ' I haven't become heartless lol or unsympathetic' , i have just become strong enough to get over bad things people have done to me and come to terms with friendships which were bad and forget about them. You need to put yourself first when it is always you who seems to get hurt.
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Your describing a sociopath. Do you really want to be a sociopath? You cant undo emotions without undoing them all and that leads to a blank life filled with nothing that will grow to deep insecurity and a hollow loneliness. But then again life is hard I dont know your predicament so with all the precautions I want you to know it is possible to stop emotions maybe not completely but possible enough if you keep working at it. It's also possible to regain emotions through proper therapy and positive spiritual soul searching. I'm saying this because I want you to know being cold and apathetic sucks but you can always reverse it. It's called detachment and its a coping mechanism used to protect the psyche. It will naturally happen when you withstand emotional trauma and a belief of nothing ever changing. First stop seeing the world in black and white. See everything in logic, act logical. Learn psychology it will help you realize why people do things and how your emotions stem from things. Pull yourself away from everything and numb your mind first with distraction then start dissecting everything that bothers you. If you start to cry lap yourself. Good luck not really....