I just want to start off by saying thank you to anyone who reads and replies to this post. I am 24 and seriously lacking in the relationship department. I’ve gone on a few dates before but nothing serious has ever come from them. Frankly, I’m getting tired of it!
There is a man I am interested in who is a student teachers in one of my classes at my university (let me add in that he is not an authority figure; he is a regular undergraduate like me). In fact, I am a year older than him. I’m attracted to him and interested in getting to know him but I am completely stumped on how to carry out this further. I see him 3 times per week in class but the issue is that he is always up at the front of the room with the teacher so I can’t initiate conversation with him often. We both enter the room and exit the room at different times so I can’t exactly nonchalantly start a conversation with him before or after class. He and the teacher often get bombarded by students who have questions for them!
Yesterday, however, I went to his office hours for “help” (which I honestly didn’t need) and he answered my questions in all of 5 minutes and we then continued to have a conversation about other things for 40 minutes after that until someone interrupted and then I left. Unfortunately, I technically have class during his office hours but I got lucky yesterday and my teacher cancelled class. What are other ways I could try and befriend him or gage to see if he is maybe interested too? I don’t want to lie and say I need more help when everything is pretty straight forward and I don’t have any legitimate questions. He WOULD be willing to schedule other time for his “office hours” if I can’t make his usual one but I feel bad when I don’t really need the help.
I’m frustrated with being lonely and I’m almost tempted to just walk up to him and give him my number without any context or him even asking! But that seems like a stupid and embarrassing move.
I’m not afraid to talk to him but the main problem is I’m not sure when to do so. I NEVER see him around campus so I can’t “accidentally” bump into him either.
Please offer any advice