how should I tell my mum I’m Bi?

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she is extremely religious and would most likely throw me out. my eldest brother and i have brought up the topic of Gay and Lesbian rights in the house many times and she shuts it down completely saying that it was Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. I have a preference for girls and am afraid if i tell her such things she’ll disown me as a daughter and never want to speak to me again, we hardly speak as it is and this would push the borders of comfort at home, our relationship is bogus as it is so i don’t see that as much of a problem however it is something i do need to bring up with her i just don’t know how or when to do it. my eldest brother supports me completely and even says that i could move out with him if it ever gets too far out of hand I’m just worried that she’ll bring up religion and her views and try and sway my mind on this and change who i am. my friends support me and love me no matter what my sexual preference I’m just worried about my mum not wanting me as her daughter anymore. I rarely worry what she thinks but this kind of is a big deal, no?

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I am not sure If it is the right option for you, but I wrote my mother a note I come from a very religious family as well and was in a similar situation as you. I gave her a letter and told her that it was something that was important to me and for her to read it when she finds the time, and I left. It was much easier and it gave her private time to process.
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first of all, i hope you know that no matter what you're sexuality, you can find people who support you. i know it is really hard because you want your mom to accept you, which makes total sense. i think you just have to be honest with her and no matter what she says, know that you have your brother and your friends who will always support you. i don't think there's a perfect way or time to bring it up, just when you feel really ready. when it comes to religious views and such, it is really hard to get people to change. don't feel like you are bad or doing something wrong just because your mom or her religion says you are. it's who you are and that's totally okay. sending you lots of love!
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I agree with Emma there is a time and a place and I think it is best for you to tell her, she might not like it to start off with but you are her flesh and blood, she will learn to accept it and you for who you are because that's what family does. Expect her to need some time as it will be a great shock to her, you have your brother and friends there for you in the meantime. Good luck, stay strong and know that you have people there for you.
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The best way to tell your mom that you're bi is just to be straight forward. Lay it all on the table...but slowly so she can process it all. Let her know that you are her daughter and that she should accept you regardless of your sexual orientation. People cannot help whom they like. Either it be with the same sex or opposite. I hope things go well!
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with that background I say text her the news