I have been in a mentally and verbally abusive relationship for the past 5 years on and off since I was 12-17(current) with a boy I met online. The problems he went through in early childhood have caused him to act that way, that’s why I haven’t left him completely.. He has admitted to me during a video chat that he tried to emotionally damage me to the point I wouldn’t be with anyone else but him. He was crying and told me he knew I would never speak to him ever again after hearing that, but that I should know. Well I know what he said was the case with me and I figured that out a long time ago.. so here I am crying over what happened a few days ago..
June 1st- I left him, because he would not trust me and was trying to get me to confirm I was a virgin by getting my ex boyfriend to say it.
june 4th- He has a new relationship
june 6th- I went insane and just told him off
june 7th- I say i’m moving on and all that stuff on fb
june 8th= he texts me saying he cant be with anyone else and I tell him we needed to move on and how he ruined my plans of going out and being happy. THEN sends me pictures of his cuts and said “That’s for saying you and dylan” so of course I feel awful inside but I tell him how I feel and he says “be with me” so I say yes and we have a pleasant couple of HOURS till a friend of mine tells me he has another gf. I confront him about it and this is what happened..
Him: Who the **** told you that?
Him: Hello?
Him: Why am I getting ignored?
Then I told him off and told his other girlfriend what he just pulled off and THEN he has the nerve to texts me this..
Him: Leave me alone I wasn’t even with you
Him: Leave my relationship alone
me: LOL woww your such a liar. You were all like “be with me” and all that ****
Him: ? No
Him: Why would I be with you if I hate you?
Him: I don’t love you your disgusting lol
So I admit I was wrong for being like this BUT I said..
Me: Should I send her the screenshots of our convos from today?:)
Him: I can’t be happy can I? Right when I find someone you’re gonna ruin it. Look at how happy you were when I talked to you.. That’s all I wanted to do was make you happy while I was in a relationship so you wouldn’t hate me.
After all that nonsense he kept begging me to tell his gf it was all a lie and then blamed me saying I hurt everyone.. I can not find it in me to move on since every time I try he pulls me back in.. and he did make me feel bad for ruining his relationship.. Should I feel guilty or not..? how am I even supposed to feel..? he had the decency to say “I’ll take the blame for cheating on you but not her I cheated on you… Not her I was always with her I know it was wrong I’m sorry. Is that better?:(” and that killed me.. I barely can eat and sleep.. I was doing so fine before he came back..