How much did your marriage change with the first baby?
Since we had our first baby, my wife is increasingly mad at me and very critical of everything that I do. It’s gotten to the point that she’s telling me that I don’t respect her any more and that I am just treating her like crap. She’s started to talk about divorce and taking my new daughter from me.
Giving birth is very traumatic phase for most women. My wife was deeply depressed for first two weeks after giving a birth. But then, we got back on good track. Sorry to hear about your marriage, but such thing is not quite normal
After you get your first baby, a woman's hormones are all over the place. You just have to be there for her and tell her that you do love her and your daughter.Eventually, she'll calm down. If not, I am sorry that you're marriage had to end up like this. But you have deal with everything that life throws at you.
A baby does affect the marriage a lot. This is a very sensitive time for your wife, so you need to cut her some slack and be there for her. Although what she is saying does sound a bit extreme, you need to be there for her. My wife and I also went through similar stuff, though maybe not so bad. There is something called as postpartum depression, you should check if your wife has it. Get some help before it's too late.
Well I'm not married and with no kids but this was enlightening as I didn't realize these things. If this is true I would recommend you get professional help that could explain this to your wife so she might understand what she is feeling maybe a result of child birth. That may buy time for the issue to subside and things to get back on track. Hang in there!
I'm sorry you are having these issues. We have a son and all I can tell you is having a baby does change your life forever. I think some people can change for the better and some for the worst. I guess if I were you I would ask your wife why she feels like you are treating her like crap? Maybe she is stressed or is not getting much sleep with a baby but that still does not mean anyone should be negative toward one another. I would find out her reasons and try to work on those things that she says is bothering her as well as you telling her what bothers you. Trying to sit down and have a conversation about it instead of an argument is the key. Hope this helps.
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