I dated a wonderful girl for almost 2 years and we were so closed to getting married, just a month away from our date and then she cheated on me and everything changed. I have the worst mental state right now, i would be hating her and then missing her a minute later, i feel like i get these mood swings when i think of her. Sometimes i think i can forgive her and still try to work out things and then sometimes when i remember what she did to me i feel like i should hurt her in some way. I just hate myself for loving her and missing her, its been 3 months and i was good for the last month and then just a few days ago i had this sudden rush and i started thinking about her alot
I just want to know whats the best way to get over someone? I just can’t seem to focus anymore at all. All my current decisions are motivated by what had happened to me and its not doing me justice.
You're doing the best you can. It sucks and I'm sorry this happened to you. And I know this sounds totally cliche, but time eventually heals anything. But a few ways you can help yourself out are to start out a new hobby, or reconnect with an old one. Read some really good books, make new friends, get more involved in your job or an organization, you just have to occupy your mind, and eventually you'll come to realize everything happens for a reason. Obviously I haven't been in your situation exactly, but I know how this feels (to an extent.) I hope everything goes well for you.
I was in the exact same situation as you .... 2 months ago... That's why I joined here, to keep myself busy not thinking about sad things and help others. First thing is forgiving yourself and forgiving her, dont keep any bitter in your heart.Watch this video, this will help you think about yourself and help you to move on:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQmdy6r8iiU