How does she do it!?

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Please check out my other question if you know anything about DID:

https://blahtherapy.com/questions/did-or-hormones/

Anyways..

We probably all have that one person who is PERFECT. But the question is: how?

There’s this girl in my class, and everything about her is perfect!
Her look
Her height
Her family
Her intelligence and grades
Her personality
HER FUTURE!!!!!!!

JUST EVERYTHING. And not to mention she does everything perfectly! She dosen’t even have to try!? How the hell do people do this? I know 3 people that are the “do everything perfectly” type. It’s my mom, this bitch, and some girl I knew online. It’s not fair, I want to be creative and smart and perfect too.

Here are some stupid comparisons that I feel like crying over:

She’s rich | I’m poor
She’s avarage height | I’m way too tall (5’7)
She’s mental problem-free | I’m full of problems
She has never lost a family member | I have lost a family member
She can stand up for herself | I’m like a victim because I’m always scared
She has both parents | I only have my mom
She does everything perfectly | I fuck everything up
She can manipulate and control anyone | I’m not controlling and I’m just awkward

AND THERE IS MORE. I JUST HATE THIS GIRL SO MUCH!
Can you please tell me any tips on how to get over this jealously? And how I can stand up for myself without being scared that I’m gonna get laughed at and mocked?
Not to mention I think my crush likes her!!!!!
Why is SHE rich? Why does SHE get everything? Why is SHE SOOOO PERFECT?
DOES SHE HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT HER MOM’S MONEY? NO!
DOES SHE HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT HER PARENTS AFFORDING A UNIVERSITY FOR HER IN MANY YEARS? NO!
DOES SHE HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT TRANSLATING SOME STUPID SHIT TO HER MOM? NO!
BECAUSE HER LIFE IS PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!
Why can’t something bad happen to her? Is there some witchcraft curse you can put on people to curse them with bad luck? I’m sick of seeing the same happy people every single day. And don’t start with “you don’t know what her life is really like” because I DO. I’ve been to her house when we were kids and everything was PERFECT. AND She is always bragging about her stuff at home.
“OOH My dad is an engineer I’m so rich and my family is such a success!”
Ok maybe not literally like that but you get me.
She’s so going to have an awesome future with an awesome boyfriend and a good job like a professor woman or something while I’m probably gonna end up getting raped by my future douchebag boyfriend and living on the streets no matter how much I study. WHY IS SHE LUCKY BUT I’M NOT!??!ÐPERJN,N
(Yes, I just slammed my keyboard, I better stop. Sorry about my outbursts, but I need help dealing with those jealousy issues!!!)

Category: Tags: asked November 20, 2014

4 Answers

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You know, I feel sorry for this girl. She will never know how to deal with adversity when it hits her (and it will in one way or another). You on the other hand, will be stronger. You will know how to overcome hard situations. And what's more, you know how to ask for help. You know you have a problem and you are willing to set aside ego and ask. I doubt this girl could do that. You are more modest than her, a rare and beautiful quality these days. You will become so much more because of your trials than she will with her insta-solution life. She may have everything, but you have a better chance of being independent and self-sustaining. Be strong, your time to be great will come, I promise.
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I just want to comment that this girl is a fucked up human being if she's manipulative and controlling. The same is true if she feels the need to brag constantly. That girl has to have some pretty massive insecurity to be bragging about her dad, and some damage from her past if she feels the need to control everyone.
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I presume this "perfect girl" has been one of the sources that has told you that your sexual kinks are a bad thing?
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I guess you have too much inside your head. I have been reading your posts these past days, and not that I don't symphatize, we all have valid problems but I guess you are overthinking a lot of things. At the end of the day, The Future is never certain, never wish for someone's misfortune just because you think your life is worse as compared to her. If you would want to have a succesful life someday, study well enough to pass high school, Uni? Go get student loans. Get a part time job. Have fun, but be responsible for all the consequences. Be smart. Do not rush into relationships, find a good man/ a decent boyfriend. Learn Self-Acceptance, if you are not happy with what you are, improve yourself. Simple as that is . Life is never easy, she can't be that Perfect as you view her to be. No one is truly happy. Never compare yourself with others. You are just 13, a lot of things are yet to happen. Take good care of yourself. Seek a therapist or a guidance counselor at school.