How do you tell someone you don’t want to be their friend anymore?
I have a friend that I’ve recently been thinking might not actually be a very good friend. I’m super nonconfrontational and I don’t know how I can go about telling her I don’t want to hang out anymore without it turning into a huge blow up. Where do I even begin?
you can start talking a bit less to her,
not like you're ignoring her but just simple.
You can hang out more with other friends and spend more time with others.
Talk about things you know she doesnt like but dont trigger her.
If she makes a fuss about it you can tell her you dont think you should be friends
Mingle with other groups. Instead of staying with your friend you find a way to talk to other people without being so obvious. Slowly drift away. Make yourself busy with things which she does not like to do but you can do.
I had a situation like that once, I was in a toxic friendship for years. Im very non-confrontational, so I couldn't get myself to tell her directly that I never wanted to speak to her again. Finally, I had enough after a very nasty comment she gave me . I summed up all my courage, because I really hate confrontation, with my heart beating so fast, and told her I had something to tell her. As soon as I started talking, I felt the biggest relief. It was over, I had said it, and there was no way that we could ever go back. It was a huge weight off my shoulders, and I am so glad that I finally confronted her about being a bad friend to me. You could also take the other route and start avoiding her more and more, and hope that she'll eventually get the message. It's up to you. And it depends how long you've been friends, and if she's mistreated you, or if you just aren't getting anything out of the friendship anymore. Either way, there is a big benefit to telling someone directly what's on your mind. It gets easier and easier the more you attempt to express yourself directly to others. Good luck!
drifting away feels a little sad... If you're spending more time with others and less with your friend, then it gives her the message "you're no fun, you bore me". I mean i'd feel that way. It's actually my biggest worry-"am i boring him/her?" Then i start to spend less time with her, cuz i dont wanna keep her/take up her time, not because she bores me or anything, but maybe i'm giving her the wrong message, too.
So, basically, being upfront may be better. I wish i could actually act like who i really am, without a concern to what she thinks of me. What if she thought i was different, it's not my fault. I wanna be honest cuz i want true friends who i can share my real thoughts and feelings with.