How do you talk to a person going through severe depression?
My girlfriend of almost one year and six months has had the worst life I could imagine….she is usually happy, but gets these little spells of sadness and I feel useless…I have no idea how to help her and I just want to hear her laughing instead of trying to cry…..Thanks to whoever helps, and sorry if this is too deep…..
I kinda now exactly how you feel at these moment, I was playing the role of the gilfriend who had depression for a loooong time, sometimes I get sad again but there is nothing no one can do. Or at least that is what I think...
My boyfriend of almost 4 years had been there for me all the way long, everything started bc I suffered a horrible expirience meanwhile I was in an exchange program in a whole new country way too far from home, it was terrible and I really tried to suicide several times, now is not so hard but back then it was just miserable life... but even with more than 4,000 miles away and just a few months of relationship with my boyfriend, he been there really help me more than he thinks, a few months ago when I finished my all week therapy season he told me that sometimes when I was depressed he thinks that his presence or his words didn't help me not even a little bit maybe because it was so hard for me to be open and talk about it even when I tried, or because even when I smiled he knew I wasn't really happy but there is somethings we can't handle it but always always been with someone helps.Perhaps, maybe at this moment you're confused or my story does not help you at all but I just want you to now that only the fact that you're there for her helps her so much more than what you think or what she can say or express right now, just do not push her, no matter what the situation is or, I know maybe you despair or wanna give up sometimes because is gonna be hard, but give it time, because only time sometimes helps us move forward.Hope this can help you, also try to convince her to go to support groups, is hard but it helps to see us that we are not the only ones in this.
Say encouraging things to her, let her open up and encourage her to talk to you about what's on her mind. Talking helps, and doing things helps, even if it's only something small like holding your hand.
I know what it feels like to be helpless, but whenever she has those days try being there for her and helping out in the smallest of ways like getting her breakfast in bed etc. Also, don't be overly optimistic because honestly, it gets frustrating and just let her just chill. Don't force her out of bed and make her do something and if possible, lay with her and just comfort her. Let her know that you are there for her and if the problem still persists talk to her about it and try to get to the root of it or visit a doctor.
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