How do you stop being a “doormat”.

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A “doormat” is someone who lets people walk all over them. They are people-pleasers and will do anything for anyone, even if they don’t want to. They don’t know how to say no, and usually attach to “toxic” people in order to have “friends”.
The problem is, being a “doormat” severely damages you and in a lot of ways. You lose all respect for yourself and hate who you are.
So, how do you stop being a “doormat”?

Category: asked April 20, 2014

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I have this exact problem just let anyone get away with anything cause you don't want to be hated. Its easier said then done but just got to try and stand up for yourself, believe in what you say or do is right and that you are doing it for the right reason. long as you approach it in a nice and correct way they will understand that actually you are right and can stand up for yourself. Just learn to love yourself and you will get the confidence with it message me if want someone to talk too :)
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Through working on boundaries, assertiveness, and attachment issues, on your own (books, online resources) and with the support of a group, a professional, friends, and family.
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Stop thinking of yourself as a doormat, that's the first step of not being a doormat anymore. ''I am not a fucking doormat'' ;) If someone wants you to do something you don't want to do just tell them: ''I don't want to do that, have some respect'' and look right at them, make sure your voice is normal, don't raise it or say it too calm, don't even think about it, just say it. They will back off and show respect, if they won't others will, and you'll start getting the right friends, that respect you :) Goodluck friend.
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i was similar throughout my college years..now that i have stopped being a doormat everyone s hating me for it...people are so bad