How do you make people want to talk to you?

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So lately I feel like being ignored. Nobody starts a conversation with me anymore and if I start they anwser my questions but that’s about it.
This happens to me in real life but also when I text, or better don’t get texts.

This may sound stupid but I really like talking to people, but it seems they don’t want to talk to me.. Is there a way I can change this?
Trying to start a conversation but never getting a ‘real’ reponse isn’t fun anymore.

Category: Tags: asked December 10, 2013

4 Answers

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Look confident - Hold your head up, be alert, look at your face in the mirror sometimes and make sure you don't look off putting, smile more, say good morning (afternoon, etc.) and if you're not confident, fake it and just act the part.

Make small talk - Ask someone how is there day, give a complement (I like your shirt, hair etc be observant), weather.

Look interesting/be interested - I know this is out of your control, you can't help if people don't respond, but perhaps wear a conversation piece? My hair seems to be a good conversation starter with plenty of strangers I don't know. I usually just mind my own business but people make conversation with it and I go along. If you look interesting, people do make note of that and strike up conversations, AND if you see someone that looks interesting, make note of that and complement them/ask about it.

Any clubs you can join? most people are easier for us to talk to when we know we have some common points :) how about volunteering? (you shouldn't have to do it everyday if you don't want to, I've seen places that let you do that once a week, you could look into that)

Meetups? If you live in an area that's big enough http://www.meetup.com has people that have get togethers.

There's nothing stupid about wanting to talk to people, we all like to talk to someone eventually :D keep practicing and trying, but try not to be too disappointed. Someone will make friends with you.
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Maybe try organizing something like a trip to the movies or a holiday party... might be worth a shot :) good luck!
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Maybe wait for them to initiate more. And when they do want to hear what you have to say just remember to take a break to listen to their response. A lot of people are put off by people who don't let them get a word in edge wise or talk their ear off (not saying you are that way...just trying to help). So just try a different approach. If that doesn't work then it could be something they have against you that they're not telling you which isn't cool (giving you the cold shoulder). I hope it all works out.
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I know how it feels to feel like you're being shut out. 1. You could talk to them about how you feel. I did that with one of my friends and the relationship did improve. 2. Don't text them as much anymore. A relationship is a two way street, if they don't do nearly half as much as you put in, take some away because you don't want to be the crutch. It's not hard for them to try because you do. 3. If you need to, find some new friends. Friends contact you and ask you to come and spend time. They act like friends.If you need to find a new group, it may be time to take a vacation or sign up for a new after school activity. I started indoor rock climbing and I gained a lot of friends from it. I'm not saying you have to rock climb lol but you can find something new and gain a new set of friends.Overall, know that you are a great person and you deserve to get back what you out out!