How do you know that youve gone too far in being jealous, need both girls and boys opinion

I know I should have let this go but I still think about it a little ok, first I admit I have a jealousy problem but I can’t help it and I had my girlfriend’s Skype account and she was teasing me about what her friend said but I trust her and she’s been telling me to go on it and asking have I been on but I went on and read her convo from when they first started talking back from the beginning, I wasn’t stalking her, I got curious and she’s done it to me but I understand her and her friend was flirting with her and didn’t like it I got upset and said some stuff and we had a fight, but I told her that pretty much any guy would get jealous like me she said no, and that she didn’t flirt back I know she didn’t but I had just got jealous and went to far but I tired to get her to understand and she didn’t understand the way I felt and it led to another fight and almost breaking up, but since we’ve been fine a few ups and downs but we pull through I hope I explained it enough but I do trust her its just been the girls in my past and other things have made me like this but if your going to say anything like make her choose and dump her keep on going I need to know how I should have handled this and how far is to far ok and please be honest tell me what u think but before u answer look at both sides of the story ok, thanks to anyone who answers.

asked July 1, 2014

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chris

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The best thing for any relationship is to communicate! Let her know how you feel about the situation. Sit down and talk about it! Also, be sure to have confidence in yourself, you will most likely feel less jealous. Hope this helps.

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Chrissy

first off, it is completely okay and in human nature for humans to get jealous. It happens to everyone at some point in time of our lives. The best thing you can do right now is apologize to your girlfriend and look past it. If she wasn't flirting back then there shouldn't be a problem. Maybe her friend wasn't actually flirting, maybe they were just being friendly or maybe your girlfriend just didn't understand or see that the friend was flirting. I must say, some people have different ways of flirting and some people don't understand or see that they are being flirted with. Also, what happened with the past relationships isn't something you can take into your new relationships. You should forget about that and put faith in your girlfriend that she wouldn't do anything bad to you. I hope this helped.

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jenna

The girls from your past? Are in the past. Stop letting them ruin your current relationship, and don't use it as an excuse to invade your girlfriend's privacy. You'll end up smothering her, she probably feels like you doubt her. You need to decide whether you're going to trust her or not, and figure out where this relationship is going.

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Bee

Rule of thumb: any amount of jealousy is too much. People who are attracted to jealousy are significantly more prone to anxiety and distrust. Jealousy is an sign of control issues. There is no such thing as a "healthy amount" of jealousy.

Resolve your jealousy concerns and learn to trust your partner.

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