How do you know it is the right moment ?


I’ve been wanting to have a serious talk with a friend about something that happened to me and that, I think, had an influence on both of us as well as on our relationship.

I am not used at all to talk about very personnal things; it makes me feel very nervous and vulnerable + I am always scared I will sound melodramatic.

We live and work together and it’s weird for me to spend a great day with him and, at the end of the day, start telling him about something really serious that is not at all linked to what happened on that day. I also hate talking about after a long of work. On the other end, when we go out for the weekend, at the beach or something, I don’t want to waste the weekend by talking about something serious (even if it’s not something bad).

I know it’s kind of a stupid problem, I guess the solution is easier than I feel, but I do feel stuck. I don’t know how to start and I don’t know when to start.

Category: asked March 9, 2015

2 Answers

Honestly, there will never be a right moment to do something. something will always come up that will make you think, hey, right now may not be the best moment. But sometimes you have to do it anyways, its better than just holding it in. If your friend truly does care, they won't find you to be melodramatic!
Just do it. As Dython said, there will never be a perfect moment for that. And it is not good to keep it inside. His reaction will not be different in 2 days or 2 weeks, it will be the same. Maybe together you will find the solution faster and it will be easier to overcome the problem? :)