How do you help a friend get over someone?

My friend is having trouble getting over her first boyfriend after their relationship ended, and I’m not sure how to go about helping her to get over him and move on. She tries to get new boyfriends, but she only gets new boyfriends so she can play the head games that her first ex is playing. She still talks to him even though I already told her that keeping in contact with him won’t help her get over him or forget about him.

I’m just not sure what to do :/ I’m aware that I can’t make her change or decide otherwise, and that she will only change if she wants to. He treats her like garbage, cheats on her, threatens her, and does drugs behind her back, and I really don’t want to see her getting back with someone like that. I really want to help her get over him and move on in life, and any advice as to how to do that is greatly appreciated.

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: ex Friend issues asked April 27, 2014

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Fox Lady

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Everyone moves on and heals at their own pace, so sometimes no matter what you do, you won't be able to help her move on any quicker. However, you can make the whole recovery a lot easier by just being there for her. Make sure you let her know that you'll be there no matter what and maybe do something fun with her or take her out to get her mind off things. Don't bring it up too much because she should be reminded that she doesn't need him to be happy and she would be much better off without someone who brings her life down. You're right, she deserves someone to treat her much better than he does, but she needs to figure that out on her own. All you can do is be there through it :)

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Hannah

Alright, I think what you should do is take her to the movies or something, take her mind off of him for a bit. Maybe try a double date? I've heard of a method that may or may not work for you. You say you hate this guy so much, then go to him and ask her to be mean/ignore your friend. At first she may be upset but she also might be so furious and stop liking him. Keeping in contact after they break up is fine, but she can't keep it if she still isn't over him, it will cause confusion and terror. If that doesn't work then take her mind off of all of it, again, take her somewhere, do something that won't make her think of him, time is the best solution to your answer.

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Apricity

Thank you for your answers :) I think I've got an idea as to how to go about this now.

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Fox Lady

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