How do you feel about Sex?

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Do you find it exciting, invigorating, the perfect release, addicting? Are you guilty of thinking about it often? Does it stay on the mind? What are some ways do you think sex could be improved? I know to most it may come off as a Taboo subject, but I can’t help to want to know the opinion of others. Lemme know below. It’s open to both heterosexual (straight) & homosexual (gay) individuals.

Category: Tags: asked May 7, 2014

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I love it. I have a boyfriend who I only see about once a week, and whenever we meet up it's like.. we close the door and boom, it's on. Sometimes I just find it fun, like experimenting with positions and stuff, and doing the whole roleplay thing, mixing it up, and it seems like the only purpose is to have a bit of fun. But other times it's intimate, and it's passionate, and I feel like everything around me is just a blur and nothing else matters. It's like you can't possibly get any closer to the person, they're letting you into their body, their desires, their fantasies. That's some sacred stuff in a relationship, you're opening yourself up to them (hah, literally). But yeah, I've only ever had sex with my boyfriend, and it's been wonderful. I mean, excluding the first couple of times which were awkward as heck.. But I've never had sex with a stranger and I have no idea what that feels like. it took me so long to gain enough trust to do it with my boyfriend with the lights on.. he really earned it. I have no idea if I'd ever be able to do that to a stranger. And nope, I don't feel guilty or ashamed or anything. I go into sex shops and ask for advice on the best vibrators. Your g-spots were made with no other purpose than pleasure, why not use them for what they're for?
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Hmm... this is a question I still ask myself sometimes, because the answer changes. When I'm having sex with another person, I usually feel uncomfortable, like I'm not sure what to do. This is usually due to a lack of communication between the two of us. I also over-think it, pay less attention to whether or not it feels good for me or too much attention to whether or not I'm living up to what my partner expected from me sexually. When I'm not actively having sex, I tend to glorify it - all the problems I have in the bedroom don't exist in my fantasies. I have a fairly SM view on sex, so any kind of power play will get me thinking about it. I think the only way to improve sex between intimate individuals is to be able to talk about it. While not everyone wants to know the intimate details of your sex life, the stigma of not talking about sex can hinder open communication with your partner. I think the pressure to look good can prevent good sex as well. I think a lot of women especially constantly body check themselves, which can cause them to disconnect during sex, in something called spectatorship. This article explains spectatorship in a little more depth. http://onetaste.us/are-you-a-sex-spectator/
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I never feel guilty about wanting sex. It's perfectly human! I sometimes have it up to 5 times a day, with my boyfriend of course haha. It can really strengthen the intimacy and communication in a relationship. Though, if you're relationship is revolved around sex maybe you should rethink some things. The only reasons you shouldn't be having sex is: Not proper contraception, STD possibility, you're not ready, or not with the right person. Or if you hold true to certain religious beliefs. I personally think sex is better with someone you love, but if that's not what you want then go out and have fun! Because sex was made for enjoyment. Just be careful physically and emotionally :)
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Sex... people all over the world have different opinions about it! I grew up in the Netherlands and sex is not a taboo to talk about. They teach us in elementery school about sex already, so that we are prepared. What is sex for me? On one side, it could be passionate love making with the person that you're in love with. Or it is just to enjoy the moment. Sex in the general way is between 2 people. They both can have different expectations and or feelings about it.I have been in relationships/FWB and one night stands... and sex has been different in all situations. in a relationship sex is not just to have fun. you enjoy the moment, it is passionate and you want to satisfy your partner, it is intense and you feel a bond between the two of you. FWB/One night stand for me is basicaly all for own "success" as long as I have an orgasm, I am satisfied. I don't think back about it because I don't want to get emotionally attached.About unsecure or whatever has never been an issue for me personally. I can understand that it might be different for other people because they/you might have the only comparisment with Porns that you/people have watched. But this is litteraly a movie and is different from real life. E.g. after being without sex for several months, and the first person you have sex with after... will not last a steaming 30 minutes of passionate sex. Probably 5 min max (sober that is, haha)So it is different everytime, in every different situation!
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Demisexual and bisexual. Also living in a quite small town where everyone knows everyone. My sex life is not very wild and exciting precisely. Would love to be a pretentious little shit but no, not emotionally possible. Luckily, I'm not experiencing any sexual frustration! YET! *knock on wood*