how do you build self esteem?

you can surround yourself with people who love and care about you family and friends. you can also try doing things that you like to do and saying positive things about yourself when your starting to feel down.

I agree with Kyle. Also, you should build your will. Someone who abused you shouldnt be missed. I think you should try to remind yourself that you're no less than anyone else and that you're strong. DO things you enjoy, find something you're passionate about. Surround yourself with optimistic people and people who love you and care about you. Also, I think public speaking activities help alot. Standing in front of an audience and speaking takes alot of courage and I think it would help extremely. It helped me. Building self esteem isn't something that happens overnight so be patient and dont lose hope. You'll get there eventually. (: Take care!

You have to realize that you are an awesome individual and even though you aren't perfect you can use those imperfections to your benefit. I'm sorry that your boyfriend (hopefully ex now) did those things to you and I hope that you can move past it. There are people that care about you even when you feel that they don't. I hope everything gets better!!

Do small things and achieve small victories. As soon as you are sure you can accomplish little things move on to larger goals.

First you must realize that there is absolutely no person who is the same as you. For every person who thinks your personality is weird, another will love it. Then know that you are a strong person who is capable of much more than you know, as long as you set your mind towards completing that task. Have faith that you will end up where you need to end up, and do what is right for you. It sounds like that boyfriend is a malicious and destructive influence, which is dangerous to your well being. Only you know what is right for yourself, but I seriously suggest considering some major change there. There are many other people who would care for you a hundred times more than the current guy, you just have to give them a chance to show you how special you can become to them.