Everyone around me is getting engage or married and their around 19 and 20. I honestly envied them because I always wanted to have the marriage you hear about where elder couples married young and faithfully be together for years. Do you think true love like that still exist or even possible in our generation? Thanks!
Hi! With regards to your concern. Since people around you are getting married at a young age, have you asked yourself, do you want to get married at a young age too? If you take away the pressure you have built yourself from your environment, do you see yourself marrying at 18 or 19?
My grandparents on my mother's side married at a young age. I believe my memere was 17, and my pepere was 18 or 19... They've been together for over 50 years now. How I feel about marrying so young, though, it depends on the situation. If the people are naive and just rush into the marriage, then I'm iffy about it. That happened with an old friend of mine. She married her 22 year old boyfriend at 17, and they divorced just a few months later. When it comes down to it, though, it's their own personal choice, so I try not to let it concern me too much. I do think true love like that still exists, though. I have two other old friends who married right out of high school, one 18 and the other 17 going on 18. They were already together for 4 years, and now have been married for almost 1. (Cutest couple ever, I swear.) So, do I think it's possible in this generation? Absolutely. But what's important is that you'll find somebody someday, and you don't have to marry young for your story together to be special down the road. :)
I think that getting married at a young age, if you're able to, is a lovely thing! I am in love with my boyfriend (we are 19/20yrs) and we always jokingly talk about marriage even though I wouldn't hesitate to say yes if he asked me. I think true love definitely exists and I plan to be with my boyfriend for the many years to come :-)
If you are truly in love, it doesn't matter what age you are. The only thing is, our image of love changes throughout the years. I was with my highschool sweetheart for 3 years. He gave me a promise ring and said we'd get married after college. Guess what. We didn't make it together through college. We both realized we wanted different things out of life and love and drifted apart and out of love. Think hard before you get married because it's a life long promise.
In most cases of marrying young in the past 60 years it was either due to teen pregnancy or rebelliousness. It really is not something that should be glamourised because it can be a huge sign of something terrible. My mom and both of my brothers married young and all of those marriages ended in divorce because their spouse was neglectful and abusive, some to the point of having guns held to their head and threatened to be killed.The reason I discourage young marriage is because people now do not have the mental capacity to make and keep the promises of a committed relationship. It is a biological fact that the brain does not fully mature at least until 23 years of age, which means its a really stupid idea to try to commit to something that huge at such a young age.A popular argument against this is that of the elderly or someone's grandparents that have been married since the age of 13 or 16. The issue with this is that divorce was not popular back then, and they don't mention the abuse that came along with those relationships. Also, back then people weren't living that long and womens right were very different. Many women would marry young just so they could have a house to live in and food to eat, others for religious reasons, and others for work. Back then, marriage wasn't all about love, it was a survival strategy.If you are still interested in marrying young, ask yourself these questions and answer honestly: Can I provide food, clothing, shelter, love and money independently for not only myself but for another person as well? Do I know enough about myself that if my life drastically changes, will I still be able to handle a committed relationship? Will I still want to hang out with other people or do other things in my life? Am I emotionally prepared for fights? Am I financially stable enough to afford having time with my spouse? Am I mentally prepared to give up everything I have for one person for the REST of my life? Can I handle being alone or single or deal with rejection for very long periods of time in a healthy way? Can I independently care for myself without needing a spouse?If the answer to any of these questions is 'no', then I highly suggest waiting until you are capable of handling such a huge decision in life.
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