I’ve been going out with my current boyfriend for only three months, and have terrible trust issues. I’ve known him for about a year, and he has never hurt me or cheated on me at all. Sure, we’ve had our fall outs, but that’s been the worst of it. The problem is, in my previous relationship, I was hurt really, really badly. I wasn’t exactly cheated on, but in my previous relationship, he would tell his friends I was insane, and that he wanted to kiss other people, etc.
I feel like it’s very hard for me to trust ANYBODY, even my current boyfriend sometimes, because of some other personal experiences that happened to me throughout my childhood. I feel as if my trust issues with him are also taking a huge toll on our relationship. Before we got together, he had also cheated on his previous girlfriend (only a kiss on the lips, but still) which didn’t exactly help. He admitted to me that he did it though.
He really appreciates how hard I’m trying to trust him, and I feel like I’m improving, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m just getting pissed off with myself for not being able to trust him fully. It gets me nervous whenever he has friends that are girls at his house, or whenever he hangs out with other people sometimes and I’m not there, or even if he talks to one of his exes or somebody he used to like. It’s really horrible, and I just want it to stop, but I don’t know how.
