How do i tell my friends that i have depression and bulima ????? ):
Ok iv had depression for about 8 months now and iv started cutting myself again.. No one knows that iv started cutting again tho. My friends on the other hand, they never knew about my depression, cutting ect.. I just couldn’t tell them.. Their always so happy and the last thing I want them to do is to worry about is me.. Now I have bulimia and I feel like if I don’t tell anyone about all of this ill do something stupid, like kill myself.. Iv been planning to tell my friends for quit a while now but I never did.. I just don’t know how to tell them because I know if I do they’ll just give me sympathy and I HATE sympathy!! :/ … Help please?? :/ btw please don’t suggest that I go to a therapist or talk to someone who I trust. I don’t trust anyone and iv been to 3 therapist they all gave up on me, I’m sick of people giving up on me all the time..
Tell your closest friend first, just to test the waters. Most of the time, when you have one person that knows, it makes telling others much easier.
Let your friends know that you are still the same person, you are just struggling with some things and you would really appreciate their support.
Sympathy is almost inevitable, but sympathy can be a good thing, as long as it doesn't last for too long. It is human nature to display sympathy towards someone when they are going through pain, just let them give you their sympathy for a day, then make sure they know that you are still the same person.
Feel free to message me if you need to talk about anything.
I know how you're feeling, I cut myself too and I was so afraid of telling anyone. The "method" that worked out for me, was to just show them my arms and then leave, to give them time to process but also to have some time on my own to realize what I just did...
I didn't change myself afterwards and I kept on being me, so my friends didn't ask much, but they listened when I was ready to tell them what's wrong with me...
I don't know if you want to do it that way, but as already said above, try to tell a person first, that cares about you but also state that you don't want sympathy...
i was in a similar situation not long ago, i suffered for a year and a half completely alone before i told anyone. And that one person is my bestfriend. She was so nice about it and i'm sure you're bestfriends would be so much better off if you told them, it's true that ignorance is bliss but there's a chance they'd find out another way and it's so much better coming from you. Tell them, word it and explain it as best you can and just tell them how you feel! Please, it feels so good to get it off your chest, seriously.