How do I tell my bf about wanting more help?


I have depression and I was supposed to be taking my medication but I forgot too many times and I feel it’s too late to start it back up again. However lately my thoughts have been so dark and I’m feeling really overwhelmed with how strong the urge to hurt myself again is (I’ve been about 1 year free) and I don’t want to fall into that again. I quit my job a few months ago because it was making me feel more depressed and desolate but it’s been really hard to even find a job and I don’t have any friends because most of them are too busy. I dropped out of uni because I don’t know what it is I really want to do and I’m so scared I never will and have no direction in life. I’m feeling so scared and alone and I want to go back to seeing professional help but I don’t know how to bring it up with my bf because I don’t want to freak him out.

I’m 19 and live with my bf.

Category: Tags: asked October 8, 2014

2 Answers

It isn't too late to start up meds again, it's the depression talking, and just say it to your bf upfront and personal, and if he doesn't accept you, it's his problem, and you have to get back into college, even if you have to repeat it, and if you can't you can try to do projects, help other people,etc., and it looks like depression is coming back, so I suggest you start taking your meds right away.
If you live with your boyfriend, you guys must be somewhat close. He should accept what you're going through and do his best to help, if he really loves you. Definitely start taking your medication. The half life is usually a few days anyways. Now it also depends on the medication, are you taking an antidpressant like an SSRI (Zoloft, Lexapro, Prozac, etc..) then you should be fine. If you're taking a medication that you had a strict titration schedule on, like Lamictal, then it might be best to ask your doctor. Regardless of the situation, you can always call your pdoc and simply tell him/her the situation and ask if it's okay to take them now. A call never hurts. Depression is trying to bring you back down so fight right now 'till your back on meds.