How do I stop the jealousy!?

The most importantg thing to remember about being jealous is that your boyfriend chose to be with YOU. He can say whatever he wants about other people and other girls, but he's not in a relationship with them. He's appreciating their physical features. But with you, he knows you're a kind person. He knows you love to dance. He knows you love to doggy-ear all your books instead of use bookmarks. (Examples, of course.) He doesn't know what the other girls are like because it doesn't matter to him. He knows those things about you because he cares about those things regarding YOU. My boyfriend and I have this understanding that while it is ok to look, always remember respect. You have the option to look too; Justin Bieber or Robert Pattison anyone? We do it all the time as females, and you should have the freedom to express it too. You wouldn't actually get into a relationship with one of them, so understand that this is how it looks like from your boyfriends' perspective too.

All I know is that you have to be able to trust him to be around other girls. If there is no trust in a relationship, then there shouldnt be a relationship at all. As for trying to get it to stop, just give it time and you should get used to it. I hoped this helps you:)

Hello:)
Trust is a massive part in a successful relationship, jealousy is normal it just depends how far you take it.
Talk it through with your boyfriend ask him to reassure you, tell him you still want to hear his feelings, what he's been doing, if he's seeing his best friend that day etc.Myself and my husband deal with jealousy in a jokey way.
Do you think that is possible for you to do that?We both compliment members of the opposite sex and we're fine with that, thats how we've acustomed to it, i will say wow look at that mans tattoo's they look gorgeous, and he will say the same about a girl etc, but we both know at the end of the day we're going back to the same bed, the same relationship and we're comfortable with thatHope that kind of helps and isnt too confusing x

I too deal with jealousy on an extreme level and it is driving me crazy. I understand 100%. It's easy to listen to advice but to live it is a different story. Once you loose so many you love to jealousy you start to fear abandonment but it so hard to change. Those feeling are extreme for some and for others not so much. Everyone has jealousy to some level, even animals. For me, it dominates thoughts, actions, things I do and why I do them and it is an awful life to try to keep up with. I tell you this so you don't feel alone in your battle to overcome. Recently, I have decided to deal head on with my jealousy and it hasn't gone very far but I do know seeking help/ learning about jealousy is the first step to dealing with it in a healthy way. As I have searched for answers I came across this: "Trust is taking the chance on getting hurt". Immediately it spoke to me because "without trust you don't have a relationship" people say. From experience, I know this to be true. I have lost many a loved one due to not trusting. It was and is my self defense...a way to protect myself. If I don't have to trust then I can be jealous and control. But the problem with that is that the control is false and I am not protecting myself but only hurting myself and others. Jealousy is "the green eyed monster" my grandmother has said amongst others yet I fall prey almost every time and most of it is unrealistic fears. My advice in this situation is to look deep inside yourself to see what a beautiful person you are and to begin building confidence in yourself with Knowledge and Understanding that you are enough with or without any one else. This is what I am now attempting to do myself. If the order is *low self esteem/confidence *untrusting*jealous then self esteem/confidence is where I shall start. I realize if I want this to change...I am the only one who can change it. I hope this helps. God Bless.

jealousy is a wasted emotion....that being said, you need to find balance ...maybe build up your own self esteem

Isn't your bf on this site? Won't he see this? lol

You should try stating some positive affirmations to change your mindset on this. Try saying these to yourself daily, every morning when you wake up:

I realise that my partner chooses to be with me and nobody else
My partner and I are both happy in our relationship
I discuss any issues with my partner
I enjoy being in a relationship
I can easily express my opinions and feelings
I am naturally trusting of my partner
I find it easy not to get jealous in my relationship
I am a naturally positive person
My life and relationship are great
Other people see me as happy and fulfilled

That's insecurity. I feel you. First of all, you should know your boyfriend loves you deeply, so he wouldn't change you for any of those girls. If that doesn't help, well, maybe you could try talking to him and telling him that even though he's not doing anything wrong, it makes you feel really insecure when he talks about other girls, so there's a possibility he'll make you feel secure again. :)