How do I say no to him?

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Ok so here’s the deal. I have a boyfriend and my best guy friend has a girlfriend, but he wants us to go out. But I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I really do love him. But at the same time I feel sad because now he is always moping around when he is with me because I said no. And he cuts, but I helped him to stop, and I’m scared that if I continue like this thats he’s going to start up again. And now I don’t know what to do, should I break up with u boyfriend, or something else. I am really confuzled right now. Help, please.

Category: Tags: asked March 20, 2015

3 Answers

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First of all, did yall ever do anything... More... Intimate? Don't break up with your boyfriend. You never did say that he said he was also willing to break up with his girlfriend, just that he wanted you to go out with him. If you truly honestly love your boyfried, I don't think youd even consider breaking up with him for your friend. It's not worth it.
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The fact that you already have a boyfriend aside, it sounds like this friend of yours is talking to other girls (you) before he's even broken up with his girlfriend! That shows a nasty lack of respect for her, and the sad truth is that someone comfortable acting that way may very well do so again. That's without even considering the immaturity he showed in asking you to break off a loving relationship and rewarding your (very reasonable) "no" with constant moping. If you're concerned that he might start cutting again, the best thing you can do is urge him to seek help.

In short, do NOT go out with this "friend!"
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I have unfortunately been on both the receiving and giving end of this horrible situation. I know how hard it is to have to deal with someone who threatens to cut themselves and do other nasty things that make you want to hug them and tell them "NO DON'T DO THAT," over and over until the pain in your soul dies down. I also know that you have to be pretty messed up at the time (which I was, and I constantly regret doing something so horrible) to want to ruin not one, but two perfectly fine relationships. I think the best thing to do here is think not about this A+ example of a friend here {Sarcasm}, but to think about those who will actually be hurt in the process. It sounds like you and your boyfriend are on very good terms, and that he would be crushed, utterly devastated if you broke up with him for his friend. And your "friend" has a girlfriend; how would she feel? The needs of the many often outweigh the needs of the few. But in the end, this has to be your decision. It sounds like you are really thinking about this, so I'm certain you'll figure out what you think, feel, and will stand by in the end as the right decision. Deep down, you know what to do.