I’ve only been i love once and that ended up in a horrible disaster, I really don’t want it to happen again. I was hoping I wouldn’t feel this way, but I can’t help it. I love my boyfriend, but I’m not sure how to say it. I know it’s simple, I mean it’s just three little words, but I’m just scared. I don’t want to be seen as weak or taken advantage of. I gave him a card that said I love you, but I know that it doesn’t count unless I actually say it. I’m just having trouble doing it.
I think that most people would agree that communication is key in any relationship romantic or otherwise. But people forget communication has multiple forms. The method of communication is less important than the message being communicated. You said you are afraid of saying the words "I love you" but more important then you saying the words is you letting him know that you feel that way. Other then that it sounds like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself. If you are afraid to say it let him know why, if hes a decent guy he will understand and he will get that you do love him. Most importantly don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Let him know you love him through other means, don't focus on how you say the words focus on the meaning they have, the words are a formality.
HI :) so this is my advice to you1) Dont do ANYTHING unless you feel 100% comfortable. Even if you want to say i love you. You just need to take your time, you cant rush yourself when you had a bad past with it. You must work on it yes. You can try by saying i love you to his pictures or something like that. get used to it first. dont rush yourself. at all.2) be open with him.. if he said he loves you already, sit him down and explain your fear. if he doesnt understand where you are coming from, hes not worth your time. But regardless of that, be open with him, be honest.3) ''LOVE'' is a big word..use it wisely..4) remember that whatever happened the last time you said you love someone didnt end badly because you said it or felt it. I mean it could have but as far as i see it didnt happen because of you saying or feeling this emotion called love. (if it was because of you saying it, ignore this advice number thing). But anyway, fear how he can use you regardless of the BIG-OMG-WORD known as love. Its not the word as much as how you guard YOURSELF. not the words.5) if HE didnt say it yet, maybe you shouldnt.. what if he doesnt feel the same? maybe that might make him feel pressure? maybe its too soon for him?. Know how you feel, if he asks, be at the ready. and if he says it, be double at the ready. but i think you should hold it to yourself till he at least says something. if he already said it, reference back to advice 1 and 2.
Well first of all how long have you been boyfriend girlfriend for? Saying i love you too early or sometimes too late in the relationship can make things kind of awkward. Has he ever poked hints at you that he loves you? It all depends also on what kind of guy he is. Depending on what kind of guy he is will let you know what kind of response you can assume to get. I'd like to hear a bit more details please :)
Well that can be a tough thing. I think you should sit him down and explain its scary but that you love him and if he doesn't feel the same way to tell you now before you get anymore emotionally involved.