How do I live for myself?

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I live for my ex and I don’t see a life without him and I am in a robot cycle

Category: asked September 9, 2014

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It's great to have people you care about, supporting you and making you happy. But also to be able to stand on your own two feet, and not to be dependent on others to be content. It's not as easy as it sounds, no. Like anything it takes effort and time to start seeing results and get to the point where you want to be.

But really, to an extent its about being yourself, wholly and uncompromised. Don't let others dictate how you live your life, make decisions for you, decide what you can or cannot do or make you change yourself to please them. Being selfish is bad, but being confident and to know what you want, now that's good.

Ask yourself, what do I want? What do I want to do with my life? What are you passionate about? What makes you happy? What do you believe in? The key to everything is "you". You are the most important part, and should always have priority over everything else. There's nothing more important than your wellbeing.



I found this article, which I thought was fitting, check it out if you want;
http://www.limitless365.com/2013/01/29/how-to-stop-living-for-someone-else-and-start-living-for-yourself/

Finally, I would like to address your statement "I don't see a life without him". Remember the fact, that you lived before you met him, and you will afterwards too.

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
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Hi Katt. I can certainly relate to how you are feeling. When my ex broke up with me all I could think about was being with him again. He wanted to be friends which I tried but then realized it was not for me. So I did what I thought was the best, I distanced myself from him. Started to make plans for my life without him. I started to realize that I couldn't let someone else hold the key to my happiness in their pocket. I know it is a slow and sometimes painful process but you need to realize that he cannot be the reason for your existence. Do you think your the reason for his? I just wanted to let you know that he is trying to get back into my life now. I may let him but I've realized I'm not going to make him the center of my life anymore. If you want to be truly happy you need to realize that another person in your life should just be someone that can ADD to your own happiness not be the reason for it.
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Getting so attached to someone, hurts. It really does make you feel that you can't live without them when they're gone. Sometimes you have to take a step back and realize that you have lived your life every day before them. See when people love someone and get so attached, they slowly let that person become their source of happiness. You have to learn that there are others things, many other things, that can bring you happiness such as family, friends, hobbies. Surrounding yourself with positive people and activities can help distract you from the thought that "you can't live without this person" because you can. Change takes time but things will eventually level out and you will be okay. Soon you'll step back and realize that, yes I CAN live without this person, I AM doing it. Everything happens for a reason whether we like that reason or not, but you will be led down the right path eventually. Keep focusing and move forward, you can do it. It's not easy but you can get through it. Stay strong, the right person will come along. :)
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we are human we are meant to live with others but you need to find something that doesn't include him a hobby or goal and work for it and you will find your self independent