How do I let go of my best friend?

If your best friend walked away from you so easily, then the friendship you two shared didn't mean as much to her as it did to you. It is good that you took the step to apologize to her and try to mend everything. Maybe she just thought it was time to move on. Within time she might cool off a bit and maybe realize she overreacted a bit. Losing your best friend when you're going through a rough patch can definitely make things harder on you, but unfortunately things tend to have an awful timing sometimes. It is okay to cry. Crying is a healthy way to let it all out. I think it is better to give her some space for now. You've done your part and that's all you can do. If you keep trying to contact her, she might drift further away. It is painful when someone walks away whom you considered family, I can relate to that situation and I know it hurts a lot. I know that some friendships have a stronger connection than a relationship does. In a sense it is a relationship too. You're right that when it comes down to family, you don't just give up on them. I can understand that even though someone isn't related to you by blood, they can still feel like family just the same. If you ever want someone to talk to, you can always message me. I've been in your situation before and I'm sorry that you're going through this. I hope that it'll eventually work out well for you.

This is a tough situation Aanaya, it is a hard reality to face when a friend who is like a sister or brother turns their back on you because of an argument or a fight. But this is a part of life that some of us have to face, in fact many of us I know from experience have faced this. The first thing I want you to know is that you can never just let go of someone who meant so much to you, as much as we would like to do so when we know nothing can be the same. That is not saying that you will always hurt like you do, but it is simply saying that the pain you feel will not always be so strong. From what I have read it looks very much like she has completely walked away from you, even though you have tried to reconcile your relationship with her. The most important thing you have to do right now is you have to come to terms with what has happened, you have to fully accept deep down that this has happened and that you must, even though it is hard, move on. An no it is not easy, it rarely is, but the most important part is you have to keep walking, keep pushing forward even if its an inch at a time. It is hard to see this now but you will in time meet new people in your life, new friends, friends that very well may become just as close if not more. Its also important to understand that you can't make someone understand when they are refusing to do so, the only person who can do that is the person themselves. I can not predict the future, maybe even she might see reason, but you will never find peace if you don't start to move forward. Your friendship is very important, but you are also just as more important yourself and you must make strives to find happiness again.

Thank you for your understanding.I have been trying to get a grip. The emotional waves are just so strong. I keep trying i don't know why. Hoping, praying, that maybe she misses me too and that she will call me. But she has even blocked my number so that I can't text her. I cannot even think of anything bad about her... i just remember all the good things in her and I don't know how she knows that i'm hurting yet she still continues to hurt me. How can anyone in this world give someone so much pain. I should be putting my full focus on bouncing back career wise but here i am, feeling so messed up inside. I walk..and i suddenly feel like crying.I take one day at a time, but for a whole month and still going on...i have never had a day where i didn't miss my best friend. I know that i have been treated very badly and i even feel like a doormat of a friend. But i still love my sister to bits of my heart. I know I will be there for her through thick and thin and will accept her arms open. I don't want to get close to anyone anymore. I thought having one friend who will be there when no one else is , was enough. But today the only friend i was ever comfortable with just walked away.

It is okay to cry and to let yourself go through these emotions, in fact from experience it is the best thing you can do for yourself. Holding in emotions is the worst thing you can do, its okay to hurt. Just remember to take a step back and let yourself breath, this may sound like something everyone says but your going to make it through this, and I genuinely believe that. We all have an inept strength deep down inside of us, a strength that helps us through our toughest patches in life. There is nothing wrong with hoping and praying things will turn around, in fact that can bring you a lot of comfort in your darkest hours. Give it more time, try to fulfill your life with the things you love to do, work on your future. An most importantly try to smile, its such a small thing but it can mean the most in the end.

It depends on what kind of argument both of you had. Let's say that she's more hurt by words than you are. So any 'letter of apologizes' aren't good enough for the situation. I know it's tough, but try not to contact her as long as you can, giving her time to think and cool down herself. And when the time is right, try approaching her again (mostly by accident), ask her to take a walk or something. But don't ever talk about the thing making both of you separated away. It won't take as soon as you expect. Mending the friendship took really longer than relationship, if I can say. What you can do is endure as hard as you can. Do find someone close that believes in you, and you will eventually getting away from what you had got.

Well what happened was that she had always told me she would give her ex a chance of he could. This ex of hers waited for her but then moved on when she didn't exactly give him any positive indications. I always felt this twinge of pain when she and I talked about him because she I could see it in her eyes that certain level of unsaid words and pain. But she has been too stubborn all along. I had texted my brother-in-law (ex) and he hadn't responded to the questions I had asked him. Needed answers. So we had decided not to message him again and my mistake was that I did. I messaged him on April first because they got together last year on that date. I asked him again what we wanted to know and this time he answers and also apologized for not answering before because he didn't know how to. And I also wanted to apologize to him for being too harsh . He is a decent guy. And I'm always honest with my best friend so I screenshot everything and sent it to her. She got angry that I messaged him. I was a little surprised because she took it really bad. I said sorry but you said you'd give him a chance. I only wanted to if there was any, know why he didn't wait and also know if he blamed me somehow. I said I'm sorry if this hurt you . By then, the ex had asked if my best friend is okay if they stay in touch. I asked my best friend and she refused to answer that. I asked because I couldn't make the decision. It was hers.I asked why she wanted and she stopped talking. I got angry that whenever something happens, you stop talking. Next day she tells me she wants me to be a real friend, go drink with her, gossip over lunch etc and not act so Indian. That hurt me a lot We do those things and because she is doing her thesis and working at the same time, I haven't been dragging her out for drinks. We did meet for coffee and if she was busy, I would go to her and make sure I'm there. I got hurt and angry. Then out of no where, she sent me this yahoo link answers and said read the answers. I did and I was astonished and completely shocked at what I read. It had someone else's answers to a problem and said that well technically "I" am a drama queen, attention seeking hoe , and so many bother detailed explanation of wanting attention and all those things have never happened. I was shocked that all this while, my best friend has been thinking so low of me. I was infuriated. on asked her when and how she developed all this thinking of me. Blaming, judging, namecalling. Our friendship was never this brutal. But she seemed to think she was right . I said to her, to me i understand if your angry about me texting him or me getting angry that you stopped talking. I overreacted when you stopped talking. ( but it really is a wonder she always stops talking instead of sorting until I seek her out). But now you sent me this link, so off topic and tell me to read it so calmly like what's in it didn't just hurt so bad. She said are you on your period. I said no. She said oh yeah, you don't need to be on your period to lay drama on me and etc etc.Then arguments. And then she stopped responding and stopped taking for days . I cooled down and messaged her that look, this wasn't supposed to come out as a problem between us. Let's talk because we always fight when we don't talk face to face. No reply. I did send her a lot emails asking her to talk and why do we always stop talking . She had never told me what actually mattered. About the ex issue. But instead the yahoo link. I don't know how she even did that. That is so unlike of her. And then I got angry and said don't leave me hanging.Then she emailed saying friendships over. I went over to her and she sent me back. I tried SNF tried, said sorry if I've hurt you, tell.me where exactly I did , and we're sisters like she had said. But no reply since then. When I lost my job, she replied saying we are no longer friends and with a word of advice about how I can be a better person. And since then has never messaged. In fact blocked my number. I've emailed but no reply. o saw on fb that she is happy. We are not in highschool. These are adult relationships still it ended like it didn't even matter. She just decided to throw in the towel. I know she doesn't Carr anymore coz I've. been in hell and she has been doing very well. So am I to blame for each and everything. Her happiness mattered to me. I'm sorry I hurt her if I did her her to that extent. But she says I'm selfish and what not. And all I did was try to make her not leave me when she ended the friendship. She is furious I sent her emails. That's what rip us apart. So I guess it's my fault. For caring. And then getting this punishment for life.