How do I keep friends?

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I don’t have any problem talking to people, dependng on the situation (i.e. at work, conversation can move from work related to fun stuff, but not personal). I’m not terribly shy, not outgoing and enjoy spending time by myself. But sometimes I wish I could be talking to someone at a close level, I want to turn those casual “acquaintances” into friends but I have a hard time doing so cus I feel like im boring or not interesting. I don’t like to go out too much, rather stay home together and hang out watching horror movies marathon and drinking. Some ppl don’t find this interesting, and I’m not involved in anything else where I have a chance of interacting with other ppl. Basically, the only friends I have are my family and my bf. But I want to have a few girl friends I can hang out and talk with. Also, I have a very VERY hard time trusting ppl since a couple of ppl have taken advantage of me in the past or talked behind my back (and one of them was just an acquaintance). so how can I get past that insecurity and give a chance without being too scared?

ETA: Thank you all for ur replies. I am going to take it slow and not get attached to ppl so quickly only to end up disappointed. I will give everyone an equal chance (at least the ones I know deserve it). Thank you again, hopefully I will make a few wonderful friends.

Category: Tags: asked September 30, 2013

3 Answers

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You can't blame everyone for the mistakes of others. it's one thing to keep your guard up but its another ball game to make others pay for someone elses mistakes. you should give everyone you meet the same level of trust until they break it. Also you have to find the people that are into the things that you are. I'm a homebody and I personally have 1 close friend. We don't always speak or see each other but when we do it's like we never left off. My other bff is my husband. I literally married my other half. In so many ways we are the same person. I know that a lot of this seems big now but you honestly only need one true friend to confide in. The rest should be acquaintances
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If you want to make a friend, you have to offer yourself up first. Tell them something personal, so that you may get something personal in return. And thus, the bonds of friendship are born!
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Buddha once said: it is a mans own mind not his enemy or foe that leads him to evil ways.You can't help the way people are, all you can do is concentrate on the person you are, maybe you could try making friend with some of your boyfriends mates, to start off with, try new things with people you think could be friends because you never know you mig end up liking said thing. I have trouble making friends too and so I start with work or my friends mates we all hang out and while I stick to my friends I get a sense of the other people and as we hang out more I get more comfortable and can start considering them future friends. Talking to people in group situations can be the start of friendships.