How do I handle not having a mom?

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I lived with my mom when I was little but she gave me to my dad when I was 5. I moved to Sweden and she’s in Burkina Faso (west Africa) and I only see her for a month per year. She calls sometimes but it’s expensive and I can’t get into my problems with her. I’ve never told anybody how I really felt about it and I usually just push it down. Now, I’m just scared that if I talk about it, people with reject me and I’ll be alone (I’ve had issues with bullying). Can someone please tell me how to deal with this?

Category: Tags: asked January 17, 2015

6 Answers

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It is really hard when you're away from your Mom, but you can say you're still lucky because she's still there who's willing to help you (by giving advice). You just need to be open about your problems, and don't be afraid of those people who will react inappropriately and leave you because of your issues - If they're your real friends then they would understand your status and be there for you. If you're being bullied, ignore them but instead deal with those people who really have concerns for you. You're beautiful as you are!
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It can be difficult not having your mom around but she IS in your life. Every chance you get you should talk to her. Texting or even social media could help as well. Tell her your problem's she will help you.
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My parents divorced when i was really young, and though my Dad was around there were often other positive role models I used. Coaches and friends dad's. Those solid relationships pushed me toward a career in teaching and coaching. So, although it's not the real thing just finding a motherly figure that you can share with and will share back is my advice.
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I had a similar situation I grew up without my mom raising me but I saw her during holidays. I was always irritated and embarrassed of her which not much has changed in my adult years. I have a good person raising me but like yourself I didn't talk about her to other people. It was like a secret but I think you will do just fine growing up with her
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My mum has lived apart from us because she has alcohol addiction. And couldn't give it up for anyone. I grew up with my dad who spent a lot of time in his room. Away from me and my sister. I saw my mum when she was well enough but she's let me down lots of times over the years. Its been sad. And even now at 21 I still struggle with things from the past. I hope you can have a more regular relationship with your mum, if she wants it to get a stronger connection with you? We are only born with 2 parents after all. But modelling your behaviour on other adults you can trust is another good idea as you can gain a lot from this. If ever you'd like to talk, I'd be more than willing to discuss anything...
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Mine died about 2 years ago, I dont really understand either