How do I go to my friends with a real personal family problem?

Go up to the friend that you trust more, and if its all then tell him in a group. Say that you need to get something off your chest and its important.

Sometimes I send out feelers to my friends, usually with people who I have not talked to in a long time, just asking how they are and if they have time to catch up. If they seem open to having a real conversation after some small talk try asking if they would be open to hearing you out on a personal problem?

thanks, I just hate feeling like I can't deal with it myself.. which is bad I know, but I can't help it.

Everyone needs help at some stage. If you feel uncomfortable telling people you know, then speak to someone who you don't know like a professional or someone from here :)