How do I go from escaping to confronting problems?

This is a touch question considering I don't quite know the whole situation. Everyone has problems they're scared to face. There's not a single person out there who can say they were fearless when it came to facing a problem they had. You never know how it's going to turn out, but the thing is, you just gotta have a little faith in yourself. Faith that everything will turn out the best. Also sometimes talking to someone and "knocking down your walls" may be just what you need. It's good to talk to someone every now and then just to get what you're feeling out of your system. Don't worry about the outcome. Just focus (first) on facing it. i AGREE . Reading can take away the pain temporarily, but like you said...you can't hide in your books forever.One day you're going to have to face whatever it is, and when that day comes you gotta be prepared. (Sorry if this made no sense I'm really tired haha) But feel free to message me!

I second what savannah has written. I have been through the same thing that you are going through, the only difference is that I pushed away my problems without really knowing it. What followed was a deeply insecure and over sensitive me. I was not confident about anything. Now here is what Id suggest: previously you read what others wrote. Well now is your time to write! By that I mean like a diary or journal. You need to firstly confront the past. As in what caused you to build an enclosure around you and push things away. When you are confodent that you have left the past then you need to move on. You need to identify your current problems and figure out how you feel about them. Lay down certain scenarios and have faith: remain hopeful. The transition from a recluse to a confidentperson is difficult and may lead to you your dark side but that is the point of moving on. With the limited information you have given this is all I can say. I would have liked to know what your problems are. Hope I helped

Care for a little imagination ?
You are able to travel in time, especificaly to your past. Then you spot a teen version of yourself who doesn't know what lies ahead... What advices would you give ? Maybe you could pat her shoulders... Telling her everything will be fine. She is growing and you know that because you are at her side as a team. You care about her, suddenly boosting her confidence. Not alone anymore...

Hello Tonya. I always believe in doing what your comfortable with. I think that you should start small with these situations. You can confront them slowly to where you are comfortable with facing your problems. I know it can be hard. I dealt with my problems by throwing anger at them so there was no turning back because I made it worst and I was always to embarrassed to face the problem again but you can still face yours. I don't know the details so I can't say what you could try to do. All I can say is confront them slowly until your comfortable.

I left out the details because there is a lot and quite frankly last time I explained it to someone it took an hour. My extendes family is imploding, 3 of my 4 aunts are divorced, in custody battles, one is being taken to court, theres insane medical problems on both sides of my family that dont help at all, one of my baby cousins died, one ex step cousin is being processesd as an international felon and his dad is harassing my aunt about it now, one of my cousins is suicidal but getting help now. Ive got a lot of other stressors now being an up and coming senior in high school with no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life. And to top it off, one of my best friends has stopped acting like shes a friend and the other is in need of some help with her psycho divorced and verbally abusive parents and the rest of her life is going down a really dark path. I dont know what to face first or even how. I just feel like im drowning im crazy stress. Your ideas helped tho, ideas of a place to start :)

Ok.....wow Tonya you left out ALOT in your question. My mindsetabout your situation has completely changed. No doubt you are going through a difficult time but you need to understand that everything that has happened is not your fault. All the things you have listed are DEFINITELY not your fault. Just hang in there and remain hopeful for the best. The world around you is going crazy but you need to keep a sain mind. Id suggest you find a friend or a relative (having you pov) and talk to them. I hope for the best.