So someone had a similar question before this, but I went through the same thing recently and it’s been hurting me badly in addition to my depression and other issues. I had a friend of over 6 years, who I acknowledged as someone very important in my life. She knew about my problems and was initially helping me through it by giving advice and suggestions. Sometimes it didn’t make sense for my life but I listened never the less. But it got to a point where she felt I wasn’t trying hard enough (I am doing my best) and that I choose this and like being this way…she said I’m stuck in a ‘self pitying’ victim mentality, and that I am selfish, self absorbed in my pain and lazy, have no courage to change my life and make excuses to be this way. This really triggered me. We stopped talking and she went ahead and told our mutual friend bad stuff about me, who isn’t talking to me either. Should I try to fix things with the other people, who didn’t even give me a chance to explain? I feel even more suicidal these days and like I’m a burden to everyone around me. Also do you think any of what my friend said was true? Yeah, depression causes you to feel sad for yourself, but I’m far from lazy, cowardly and attention seeking. Only I know how much I fight to stay alive every day when I’ve thought about ending it so many times.