How Do I Get Over her already?!?!?

i went out with her for 4+ years…. she honestly was the first person who ever saw something special in me. i think that’s why is hurts so much to let her go. she was a horrible girlfriend towards the end though. played me like a fiddle. then came back to me like i was left over pizza. its been like 8 months now since we were technically together maybe more. we would break up so i lost count.. and i still think about her.. randomly cry in the shower. a couple months ago she left to mexico and got a new girlfriend(not surprise because shes beautiful) and it didn’t bother me because i was working at the time and i didn’t know anything about her so there was nothing to be hurt over. BAM she comes back, tries to contact me. i insisted she should just leaving me alone. she doesn’t bite. she called every other day or two just saying how she just wanted to see me and all this bullshit. i finally caved in… a little advice NEVER answer your exs phone calls… especially if you still love her. anyhow now i’m here. wondering how/why i let her get back into my head… what was that rendezvous about? closure?i just want to cry and cry… like i’m hoping she will come and pick me up… yeah i know she wont… but that doesn’t keep me from hoping she will…

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I feel like she's just using you. i also went out with a person for quite a while and after we broke up I was still crying over him and even remembered the date we started going out a year after we broke up. I didn't get over him until recently when I finally let myself accept the fact that this is unhealthy, that i need to move on. So then I let myself find everything that I still had that reminds me of him, laugh and cry like crazy when it reminded me of the happy times and then break down and cry because I knew we would never be the same. After a good cry I just..idk felt relief and it was like I finally accepted that I loved him but I'm ready to move on. Never deny the fact that you love her but remind yourself that there will be a better tomorrow. Honestly there is no one way to do this and it may take some time, months, years even, but you will get over her when you're ready. Remember this, the past is the past. Message me of you ever want to talk and I wish you all the best. I hope I helped even a little bit >.<

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you helped a great deal... i think the more i hear and talk about it, the easier it is to fully grasp how it just wasn't meant to be. although i have this hate in the pit of gut for her now. resentment even for tricking me like this. For causing me pain when all i ever did was love you. how can people even look at themselves in the morning. Now i have to go on reminiscing about her until one day hopeful i can just get over it?? it sounds so unreal. why cant she be the one in pain?? why does she get off scout free??.. she was my best friend too.. which sucks balls.. who do you go to? when the person you usually confined in, are the ones who betrayed you?... i just want to find someone to get my mind off her.. but i cant.. i dont know how??

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Well, there's always someone on here that I'm sure will gladly listen to you whenever. For me it helps when I just lock myself in my room and let myself cry. it's so hard to get over someone you love. A lot of times i think about him everyday and when I see him I accidently stare at him and when that happens I'm angry at myself. And then I'm pissed that he's not the one who's sad and i'm sure he doesnt give two sh*ts. There's honestly no easy way out of this, once you find someone who's actually worthy of you, you'll slowly become happier and accept the fact that you will be happy in the future. There are days when you'll be sad and days when you'll be happy. Once you accept this, don't feel bad for not loving her anymore, don't let her trick you into feeling like this again. At least you know that you truly cared for her and she is no longer the person you fell in love with.

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