How do I fix me?

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So I was molested and raped multiple times througout my life and I haven’t told anyone about that, parents, therapists, anyone. But I have to fix it now. My boyfriend groped me more than what was comfortable in his sleep and as a result my body isn’t comfortable with him. We broke up because of that. I love him. How can I fix myself so that I can be comfortable with him again? Please help….???

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These things take a lot of time. I was raped and I never got over it. The biggest thing you have to do when in a new relationship is to be clear and honest with them. They need to know your comfort zones. I also recommends seeking therapy so you can learn techniques to get over this.One thing a therapist taught me when I get tensed up because of flashbacks of my rapist is DEEP breathing techniques. It is when you breath in deeply and observe what is going on with your body and your are inhaling. For instance you notice your nose getting cold, you feel your chest expand, and your diaphragm stretch and then you observe again when you exhale. This exercise can take your mind off of whatever is going on and it can be relaxing.If you ever want to talk about this my inbox is open. I have been raped and sexually abused during high school by my own boyfriend. However I'm only on this site every other day.Also, I'm not going to sugar coat this. No one can not be fixed by rape and sexual abuse. BUT you learn from it and make it turn you into a stronger person.