How do I find the right therapist?

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I’m considering going into therapy for my issues, mainly depression and the fact that the only ways I know how to deal with my issues are to distract myself by getting really drunk, really high, or cutting. I have tried figuring it out on my own, but some of my friends think it’d be better to talk to a professional. However, I went to therapy before when the cutting started, and had an extremely bad experience. She basically tried to put me on drugs before she even knew anything about me, which didn’t sit well with me. Then, when she tried to give me ideas on things to do to stop myself from wanting to cut, I asked her what I should do if nothing worked, and she said, “Well, if it doesn’t help, and you still feel the need to, then you can.” Basically, she didn’t help me solve anything, and so I stopped going. Now I’m just wary that if I start seeing someone, they’ll be the same, and I know it will take me a bit to trust them. I also don’t have a lot of money to afford this, and I don’t want my parents to know I’m getting treatment, and I’m still on their insurance. Basically, whats the best way that I could go about finding therapists who would work for me, without spending an arm and a leg?

Category: Tags: asked April 21, 2014

2 Answers

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Honestly, most therapists are not like that at all. She was not helping you what so ever. There are usually therapy groups and sessions that are free (or very low costing) in your area. Usually at your local hospital or community center. Depending on how popular the therapist is, there are sometimes reviews of them online. I have had a few therapists and all have been quite wonderful. One bad experience doesn't mean the next will be bad. Good luck! :) I'm glad you are willing to seek help
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I'm sorry you had a bad experience. Most would consider your use of substances as a way of self medicating or as a way of trying fill a missing relationship in your life. It sounds like your therapist was very dependent on the medical model rather than the humanistic approach. The therapist needs to listen to you and help you help yourself. As much as I hate to say it, it might be a trial and error process. You could try looking up reviews on certain therapists or companies. Face to face is usually the best option, but there are also therapists a part of blahtherapy that are only 25 dollars a session. Best of luck to you!