How Do I Find My Clique?

I have been through that exact same thing and I bet a lot of other people on here have too. It would be very cliche for me to say "pick the one that makes you happiest", so as requested...I won't tell you to do that. I do think, though, that you need to find a friend or friends that YOU want to be around. One of two things will happen. You will join that group and not even know it or you will start your own, and there is nothing wrong with that. Not everyone has to be part of one clique. Be yourself and find like-minded people. The rest will fall into place. It is the true friend or friends that will make all the difference in the world.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, and I understand, but it's much better to be a part of something that you love and have others criticize you for it than "go with the flow" and be a part of something that you have no interest in or don't want to put the effort into. Don't worry about the "popular girls". They don't make your decisions for you. It's your life and you're the only who's going to change it, so don't let them waste your time. The good thing about being a part of a clique is that you have a whole group of people who share the same interests and will likely support you through anything. Find something that you love and are interested in--it's your decision, no one else's--and the popular girls can be on their merry way, because they must care a whole awful lot if they're that concerned about what you're doing with your time.

Don't try to go after the groups of people. Get to know individuals. Talk to people you don't talk to very often in your class. Find people you have common interests with. Try and meet new people, or get to know the people you already know better. There are a lot of great people out there.

Make your own clique!! Be spunky and bubbly! Be the person everyone likes to be around! Most importantly.. Be. Yourself. It's hard trust me I know but if you need to talk hit me up.

Well I can tell that you are worried enough about getting bullied by 'popular girls' that you probably won't listen to anyone saying you should do what you love. Instead, I'm going to suggest you find who you love. Find people who will accept you for who you are and not leave you for other people like your.... best... friend. Try and find somewhere where it's safe to be yourself. People with similar interests can be good, but they're not always perfect. Take a look at different groups and see which ones stick up for each other and seem the most open and carefree. Find one that lacks a strict social hierarchy/norm, those cliques are the ones that are the most open and accepting.

You won't find a clique, the group will find you. It's not a matter of just walking around, it's more of going with the flow and finding where you stop and once that trip doesn't work out you'll go back on the boat to find a different stop. There are many cliques like the popular girls, jocks, goths, loners, etc. though it's more of a separation thing that we humans naturally do. Just find people that you have common interests with like books, if you like reading join book club. Just be yourself and see where you end up.

Get to know people individually and don't necessarily worry about cliques. Making friends with many people that fall under different categories can make you accepted by everyone. As far as the "popular girls" go, don't worry about them. There will be people all through your life that will ridicule what you do, just remember that you can't always please everyone and winning someone's approval isn't worth losing yourself. Find some open minded people that you have things in common with and spend time with them. Always remember that your friendship is always worth something to people (at the least the people worth being friends with). Once you find the right "clique" you won't really be so worried about what other people think because you'll be happy being with people that accept you for you. I wish you the best of luck! I'm sure you'll find where you belong. :)