How do I explain this?

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I’ve been depressed and suicidal for years, and my friends think its nothing
what shall i say to try and make them understand?

Category: Tags: asked June 19, 2014

2 Answers

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If your friends think it's not something to worry about--and I know this sounds harsh, but hear me out--you should look for some new friends. True friends care about your problems and can help you out. They're people who are there for you no matter what, especially at times like this when life is horrible. You need people who are there to support you. If you think that you're not good enough to get better friends or that they've been with you so long or something similar, I promise you, you DO deserve to have good friends. Everyone does. Maybe stop hanging out so much with these people and find some better friends, like the people here at BlahTherapy. While I'm sure theyre fine people, you do need people who wll support you and be there for you, especially when you're suicidal and depressed.
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Your friends have no idea because this hasnt happened to them.Regardless of your friends ages,as mine are old enough to be grand parent,people want get it unless they have been there done that,so to speak.
I am not sure how much you have said to your friends neither and if you have mainly mentioned that you are depressed and thats all,may be they dont get it because you havnt said enough to them.
Mind you though you would think that some one would see your not well,unless they have not been your friend before all this,then they just might think this is you.Again it may be because they have not faced this before.Or they dont know what to say or do.
Every one deserves good friendships,even if its just one good friend.I am wondering if you think they havent been told much because you have hidden quite a bit from them,that perhaps if you can muster it up,that you try having them over for an afternoon tea or something and then,let them know how you feel about them,that you want them to understand you are not well,and you need more support.May be have a parent with you or at least make sure they are near when getting to gether so if need be if any of the friends want to ask questions mom or dad can jump in and help answer if need be.
If you have done some thing like,having your friend over to talk to them(since we here dont know)then I would be trying to find other friends.People that perhaps are in different social groups than they are.
Then if some of those friend ask why things have changed,then it will give you the chance to say why and it may make a difference to some one,and then one of them may listen better and understand you.
But as I said in the beginning,its mainly ignorance to your problem,but not always others fault if no one has explained properly or not been through it themselfs.
Good luck