How do I deal with my (sometimes irrational) anger?


I am a 20 year old female. If you saw me, you would never guess I had an anger problem. But I have this issue where I’m almost constantly angry, sometimes theres a reason, other times theres no reason, and the fact that theres no reason makes me even more angry.I’m already resigned to the fact that I’m just an angry person. It doesn’t affect my dealings with people; people have described me as one of the most respectful and kind people they’ve met. I channel all my anger with physical fitness. I run daily, to the point of exhaustion if I’m really pissed. I also do weights and use the punching bag — I actually made my knuckles bleed the other day. I also keep a journal, where I try to work through/find the origin of my frustration. I understand these are all good ways to channel my anger, but it doesn’t dissipate it. Am I doing something wrong? Is it a mental disorder?

EDIT: Thank you for all the helpful comments. I’m a bit afraid of going to a therapist/doctor, but its definitely a valid option

Category: Tags: asked September 22, 2013

2 Answers

Honestly i think the best thing to do would be to get a therapist, because then you have professional help on how to calm yourself, have you ever tried looking up breathing exercises for anger? Those might be able to help you control your anger a bit more
Hello, I'm kim and i'm 21, I think from what I've read the safest bet is to tell your doctor exactly how you're feeling because you may have an underlining issue that you haven't resolved or it could indeed be a mental disorder but there's nothing wrong with that. I suffer with something called Borderline Personailty Disorder and one of the criteria is that I get uncontrollably angry a lot of the time but it never comes out physically I just keep it inside and then take it out on myself, I'm not saying its anything similar to you but its always worth checking.