How do I deal with low self steem?

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Hi, I’m a 16 year old girl and I have literally NO breasts. Normally I wear big bras to make it seem like I do have breasts because i’m really insecure about it, in my past some boys have made fun of me because of this. But it’s becoming a problem because I reject every boy or posibility of a relationship because I’m afraid when they found out they’ll be dissapointed and leave me. I don’t want this anymore but I don’t know what to do. HELP

Tags: asked September 17, 2013

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I've heard breasts actually don't stop growing till you're in your early 20's, there is yet still hope for you.

Anyways, to be honest breast size isn't nearly as important as proportion. As emily said, most slim girls tend to have smaller breast size, which is fine if it compliments the proportion of your body.

Plus if a guy likes you enough, he's not going to give a shit about how big or small your boobs are. You just have to know how to work it. Don't fake it though, that'll tick a guy off. So stop with the padding and shit, that's the only thing that will disappoint is a guy seeing big boobs and not getting it when the bra comes off. So don't fake it, let your confidence show through.

If it will help, here are some photos of some beautiful women with a flat chest.


In conclusion dollface, you're beautiful so long as you know how to use what you have to your advantage. I'm aware there are tricks like push up bras and stuff you can use to make it look bigger, but it's really not that big of a deal. Confidence is way more sexier than some fake tits.
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you're not alone! so many 16 year olds at my school don't have breasts either but it shouldn't be something you let control whether you have a relationship or not because if you're in a relationship, that person will love you for you and not for your body. Its very common for skinny girls to have no breasts so if you're skinny try putting on a bit of weight because it will help your boobs grow! unfortunately there isn't anything you can do to help them grow but don't turn down relationships, your boyfriend shouldn't care and if he does then he shouldn't be your boyfriend! hope this helps xx
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I come from a school with a lot of girls without and trust me, the advice about gaining some weight to get them does work! But anyways, you need to put trust in yourself and anyone you're interested in. Don't wear the bras to make them bigger. I know this seems hard, but wearing it is essentially lying to yourself and others. If you don't then they'll know beforehand what size chest you have and it won't effect them rather than not knowing and being upset that you lied, or sometimes even disappointed. Also, a lot of guys like a small chest, I know how that sounds, but it's true. But since it's so common for guys to like a hunky chest, they won't come out and admit it. So just show who you truly are, and you'll find someone in no time! Good luck :) (P.S. eating fatty foods help, because the first place that food goes to is butt, thighs, and breasts. Yogurt and other dairy products help in that area as well. I also heard once that massaging the area before and after a warm shower will help them get fuller. Hope that helps.)
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Thank you Emily, Chey and Fark. Actually, three of you said the same thing, 'skinny girls smaller tits' 'proportion is the main thing'. But sadly I'm not skinny at all. I'm not gonna say i'm fat, but not skinny enough neither to be flatchested, so I'm not proportionated. And I don't really think they are gonna grow anymore... I guess you're right and i'll have to start using realistic bras someday but while i'm at high school i don't think i'll be capable to do that. Anyways, thank you so much for taking the time to answer <3 @fark @inspirationalspeeches @captain
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Don't close yourself to relationship. Guys will look at physical first, then personality, so yes, when they started talking to you, they like you the way you are and they have observed your chests and look at your personality = ). So there is no need to close yourself.I have a friend who I thought have the ugliest face that almost all babies cry when they saw her (seriously). But she has the greatest personality and high self confidence. She now has a boyfriend and they both are madly in love with each other.