How do I cope?


Let’s label them both… Friend1 and Friend2.
So basically, friend1 and I have been friends for a few years. Yes, we have had arguments but it wasn’t until recently that I was doubting our friendship. Friend2 and I have been friends since after she started to become lonely, and we really connected. She has autism, so it was hard for her to communicate with some people, but we just clicked together like puzzle pieces.
That is when friend1 started to think that friend2 was stealing me away from her, and we had an argument. I was normally the one to send a Facebook message to come ‘running back’ according to her and she wasn’t having it this time. We have been unsettled since and I have been hanging around with friend2 a lot more lately and she really does put a smile on my face.
And then friend1 started hating me even more and making hurtful comments towards friend2… I broke off the friendship and since I have been getting hurtful messages through Facebook such as:
“You and your new best friend seem happy together… You know, I will never be friends with that b**** and if you can’t make it work then we are done. No more ‘friends’, if you thought we were anyway…”
I started to get bullied by a lot of people after this and so many bad things happened. I honestly felt like I was falling into a state of depression because I have had past experiences that included threats for physical abuse and many more. I have lost so many people in my life that I feel so horrible. I have also considered that I have anger issues because ever since this situation I have got angry at everyone I look at… I have no idea how to cope and my mum and I are considering my option of counselling through the school so that I can talk to someone about it… I need help on how I can cope with this. Any suggestions?

Category: Tags: asked January 12, 2015

2 Answers

That's hard. I've had to deal with people like this. That isn't true friendship and I'm sorry that they treated you so horribly. You know, I've had so many people walk out of my life that I thought were close or better friends. It's so hard to deal with, but it's better this way. We only need to surround ourselves with positive people. Healthy and who bring us up not down. The best way to cope is to continue hanging around people who affect you in a healthy way and make you happy! Put into relationships that actually put into you. Talking to a counselor may also be good. Do things that make you feel good and happy. Anything. Movies, crafts, hobbies. Whatever they may be. Strengthen your relationship with Friend2.If you need another friend to talk to, my inbox is open to you!
The most important thing is to talk to an adult about this. You've done well in breaking off the friendship and telling a parent and considering talking to a school councilor. Talking to a councilor is the best step. Do not argue back with Friend1, because it will just make matters worse. Obviously you and Friend2 get a long well so just focus on your friendship with her. Friend1 probably has low self-esteem and that's why she's acting the way she is. That's how it is with most bullies. Whatever you do, don't fight back with her and focus on the things that are most important to you.