How Do I Become Outgoing?

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So for pretty much all of my school years so far, I have been extremely shy. For years, people have known me as “That Shy Girl”. And I am sick and tired of it. I have always wanted to be one of those people who don’t care what others think and just talk to everyone but I’m just not. How do I get over my shyness? and become the person I just spoke of. And NO I cannot just walk up to people and say Hi!! I just need advice on how to pump myself up enough to do it. I have always viewed myself as overweight and I’m very self conscious. So how do I get over that a well?

Category: asked June 20, 2014

7 Answers

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Have you seen "we bought a zoo"? Something they said there that may apply to you is, "all it takes is 20 seconds of insane bravery." Give it a shot! take a breath, and be brave, all it takes is 20 seconds to say hi, talk to someone you never have before, try to give 5 hugs a day.I also challenge you to say hi to every person you lock eyes with within 20 seconds. :) Good luck!
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self confidence is a very tricky thing, and it sucks because the only person who can really change it is you. but there was a few things i did when i was self conscious that helped. try going out and buying some nice new clothes that make you feel good, and just spend a day all to yourself and get ice-cream or something. then have a day where you wear these new clothes and do your hair nice and do your makeup all pretty. dance around in your room to your favorite songs and go outside! i know it sounds stupid, but simply getting dressed up and feeling like you look great can make you feel great as well. another tip: faking it. people always say 'fake it till you make it' which is actually pretty true. if you try to at least fake being confident, it will soon come in turn. don't degrade yourself or saying that you're shy, it'll get into your head that you really are. walk with your shoulders back and your chin up; it gives your body mentality a boost. also this sounds REALLY stupid, but in the morning try listening to one of those stupid songs like "Boss Ass Bitch" or any rap song about being awesome. it's funny but it'll make you feel better. Again, self confidence is a weird thing and there isn't really one way to become confident. start with small things, always go outside and do things instead of staying inside. it's a mentality thing so you really need to find a way that you can become confident in yourself. it'll take some time. i definitely suggest just faking it though because you really will become confident that way. good luck!
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I'm the same way. I'm an introvert. I've been faking "outgoingness". Thing is, if you're really introverted, faking being constantly outgoing (in my case in the office) can get really exhausting. I'm not sure really, I'm wondering how other people can do it so naturally. Either way, I am ok with myself being introverted, there are just instances that you need to step up and be more vocal and when that comes I just put on my outgoing smile until I'm exhausted.
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Practice little things like eye contact during a conversation with a stranger. Then move on to speaking clearly and projecting your voice in a variety of environments from streets with traffic to concerts. Talk to strangers where it's hard to be heard if your too quiet. When you can get your point across in a loud environment with good eye contact and a smile while speaking to a stranger your ready.
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you're doing fine. just having the desire to change will help you change. in no time you'll be talking to people freely. i like shy people actually. it's a breath of fresh air sometimes.
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i use to be very introverted and it took some time for me to come out of my shell. Like i never walked up to people and started the conversation, but when i entered college things changed and i was a completely different person, and i became a complete extrovert. I attribute this change to my community service, jobs, and clubs. Clubs, sororities, ASB, community service, sports are good ways for people who are shy to meet others. It will take time but the more you engage in extracurricular activities the easier it will be to be comfortable around people and overcome your social anxiety.goodluck!
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I think shy girls are the absolute cutest.