I don’t really understand myself. I am very confident in my abilities. I know that I’m a good athlete. I know I’m a good student. I know I can stand up for myself when need be. I am not afraid to express an opinion on pretty much anything at all. I can easily accept any compliments dealing with these things. But if someone every compliments me based on my appearance, I always feel like there’s an ulterior motive. I can never actually believe the compliment. I always immediately think that the person just wants something from me or that they’re joking. I don’t think I’m necessarily ugly, but to have someone call me pretty or even beautiful… I just don’t know what to do with that. Not only do I not believe it, but what is an appropriate response to it? Is it conceded to say thank you? Is it rude to be kind of dismissive about it ( I tend to say “You’re too kind”) ? What is an appropriate response? Also I don’t know whether I should compliment the guy back as well. Sometimes I feel like it might be emasculating or something… so ummm help please?
