How did you get over your first love?

Time, it can take awhile. Talking can help, not thinking about them can help, but not actively not thinking about them. Just try and make your life more about you, and include them less in things that are you related. Make time for you, and focus on you. Not sure if that will help or not

time helps but i dont think you ever fully recover if it is real.

Your first love is always the hardest and the most painful. You can talk to friends I guess to help distract you or if they've been through the same problem they can understand your pain and how you feel. But really, the only person that can help you in this situation is yourself.
There's 3 important things that helped me:
1) Space. Just don't see them for a while. Distance yourself and avoid them. Even if you have to unfollow or block them sometimes from social media. I'm not saying hate them but you need your distance so you don't get the urge to talk to them.
2) Distract Yourself. Literally do everything and anything. Join a new club/activity, go to the gym, help out with charity, play sports, etc. Keep yourself busy - the busier you are, the less time you'll have to think about them.
3) Time. Just a lot of time. Sometimes a long time, but if you're keeping your distance and being busy, each day will get a little bit better. Each day you will miss them a little bit less. This could take weeks, months or years. You just need to believe that eventually you will stop hurting and it will all be ok (:

I mostly had to wait. Took me months to get over my first love. Around eight to be more exact. (I wouldn't worry about it taking that long with you though. The circumstances of our separation where sort of strange, and I never really got closure, and I think that's why it took me so long). He was all I could think about. But as time went on, and I continued living my life, every day, I thought about him less and less.I would talk about it in online forums and such every now and again though. Blahtherapy is a good place to be. You can talk to people, write as many statuses about it as you want. But it's most important that you keep moving forward. It might help to get rid of things that may constantly remind you of your ex. Or maybe store them away somewhere you until you feel like you can handle it. That's what I did.I would recommend deleting his number and any pictures of you from your phone. You can always talk to me if you ever feel the urge to call him. You could work out, watch your favorite movies, look up funny videos on Youtube, maybe start a new hobbie. Whatever works for you, there are lots of things you can do to distract yourself.Best of luck. Feel free to friend me ^^Later.

I dumped mine, so maybe it is different if you are the one that got left instead of doing the leaving. I refused to talk about him to anyone, that way I couldn't say good or bad things about him. I found out shortly after I did leave him he'd been cheating on me for a while (long distance relationship)... I'd gone down to surprise him for his b-day and he was acting shady. Turns out he'd had to leave the other girl's bed to come meet me at his mother's house. I ended up completely shattered and had a very close guy friend take advantage of that vulnerability and try to sleep with me. At that point I didn't really care, so I went with it. The sex was terrible and I knew that I didn't mean much of anything to him afterwards... So I said I wasn't going to be used, I had too much else at the time to worry about, so I cut both men out of my life for good. I deleted their phone numbers and got my number changed, shut down my facebook after blocking both of them, etc. so I couldn't contact them should I ever lose my mind and desire to do so and so I knew they couldn't keep contacting me and playing my emotions. I focused on work and school, made the dean's list, and had a lot more on my plate just after all of that mess went down that took my mind completely off of them. I found someone that loves me for me, not what he can get from me, and we are due to be married sometime next year (his deadline, not mine) after having been together for over 3 years now. Those BOYS showed me exactly how I should NOT be treated by a real MAN.

It takes time. Personally when I go through a break up I remove every aspect of that person from my life until I've moved on enough to accept a friendship. I usually change their name in my phone to something less personal, I remove pictures from my phone (I created a hidden file on my laptop), I also delete our conversation thread. I believe in out of sight out of mind. When I feel the urge to talk to them I call a friend instead. That's what friends are for, relationships come and go but your friends will always be there for you. Then of course when you're ready open yourself up to the possibility of talking to someone else, give someone else the opportunity to have something special with you.

It will take time, I wish I could give you the exact duration because myself and the others here probably know how painful it is. It took me over a year, mainly because I stayed involved with him for a short while hoping he'd magically take me back. It could be less for you. I decided after a long time it wasn't worth the pain and I had to move on, I deleted the photos we had together from my phone/laptop/Facebook, I put the gifts I was given aside, I spoke to my friends a lot. It took a while but I got there, good luck.

I thought I got over mine, but when he started talking to me again the other day and saying how he messed things up between us two, idk made the feeling come a bit i guess. so it takes a long time and even sometimes when you think youre over someone, it can get back to you

The biggest thing for me is not communicating with them anymore.. thats the hardest part for me but I believe it is one of the most important things. You should cut contact because when you keep talking to them your not really healing yourself. It might seem like it makes things easier when you continue talking to them or 'being friends' but really its just making things more complicated. This is something I try to remind myself of now whenever a relationship ends. I also just try to focus on myself because being in a relationship is draining and it takes alot out of you.. you really cant be selfish in a relationship and so when it ends I really become focused on me and regaining who I am again. As for how long.. I dont think you ever get 'over' someone that you loved.. you will always have the memories and remember how you loved them at one point.. I think you just start accepting the fact that they are no longer in your life and they are no longer the person that you loved.