how can me & him hangout?

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So Me and this guy have ben talking for a couple months now. We’re both ready to be in a relationship. The only thing is, we haven’t hungout yet…. I’m 17 & he’s 20. He’s one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever talked to, he’s respectful,friendly,funny, east to talk to, and so much more. I want to be in a relationship with him. The reason i haven’t made plans to hangout with him yet is because I haven’t told my mom about him. I don’t know how she would feel about his age and stuff. I feel like she wouldn’t be happy with me. I feel this way because when she was 15, she dated my dad who was 21…. older than her. I don’t want her to think that this is the same situation like hers. Or think that hes too mature or old for me. I really like him and he’s made me happy so far. I just don’t know what to do.

Category: Tags: asked September 4, 2013

4 Answers

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3 years age difference isn't so bad, you'll soon be 18 so why would it even matter?

If you're really concerned with what your mom will think, (y'kno, cuz of the whole age thing) you should continue to build a close friendship with him and casually bring him up to your mom that he is just your friend every once in a while. Say stuff like "oh my friend, -NAME- said the funny joke the other day". Be sure to make mention of him a couple of times, your mom will get the hint, but continue to emphasize on the fact that you're just friends and maybe have him pick you up one day to go to a movie (maybe with one other friend as well), so your mom gets a chance to meet him.

Then when you hit age 18 you can break the news to her that the two of you are going steady. Whether you decide to start a relationship with him prior to turning 17 or not isn't something your mother has to know. If she gets the hints you're dropping her by you telling her allll about how great of a guy he is, it may be easier for her to accept.
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Why not hang out in a group setting and see how it goes. No need to jump right into seriously committed relationship. That is like going from zero to 100. Right now you are at about 20 MPH (: How do you communicate? Is it online? Do you see him at work or how do you know him? Go slow. Get a group of kids together and invite him and see how that goes. Try just being friends until you are 18 however, if for him if nothing else to protect him. If your Mother has a huge issue with this, he could go to jail so take this seriously. He probably is waiting until you turn 18 anyway.
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wait to hang out with him ...when you hit 18 you wont have this dilema...besides 17 will will get him 20.......and i give you a lot of credit that you care about how your mom would handle the situtation...it shows you two have a good caring loving mother daughter bond...thats a rare and wonderful thing......if he is as crazy about you as you are of him he will understand and wait for you to hit 18....but seriously, , what does a 20 year old man want with a 17 year old girl ? ...uh huh,...so wait untill your an adult
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Talk to your mom, it is good to build a relationship with a parent about things like that. Especially with him being older.. it is good to let your mom know who you are with, and where you are at. Talk to your mom about him.. all of you hang out together and get to know each other, so that your mom has a chance to met the guy. She should understand, she has been that age before But do not, I repeat.. do not get into a serious relationship, don't even think about a relationship, until you have had a chance to hang out and get to know each other better. Please come by and talk to me, if you want. and we can talk more about this, since I have been in your shoes. Good Luck!