how can I tell my girlfriend to be less clingy

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My gurlfriend and I have been in a semi long distance realationship (1.5 hour drive apart) for a little over 4 months now. I really do live her and I think at times that she might be the one. However she is super clingy she calls me at least once a day which is nice but then there are days where she calls like 5 times in a coupke hours. She constantly texts me which again is nice but nit when it happens when I tellher I’m busy. She makes plans to see me without l,considering my mood and such. For example. I tokd her I didn’t want to meet her friend because I was both sick and had a long day of work. Ten minutes before I get off work she and her friend come into my workplave and say hi then say we are going out for lunch afterwards. I really do love her and can imagine us being together but I need some advice on how to nicely tell her to lighten up and consider how I’m feeling in those moments

Category: asked March 30, 2015

3 Answers

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You need to be honest with her. Tell her how you feel about all this. Honestly, being honest is such an easy way for relationships to work out. Just talk to her about this. She might not realize that you're uncomfortable with this habit of hers unless you tell her. Just have a calm conversation. Good luck.
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Unfortunately i've had to tell my boyfriend this before... I put the awkward conversation off for about 2 or 3 years! I then realised it would have been much easier doing it earlier! It's going to be pretty uncomfortable but you definitely need to set some ground rules. Do it gently, maybe by saying sometimes you're not in the mood and you'd appreciate some space from time to time, and being asked about plans beforehand rather than just being expected to go along.
However if you want to be in a serious relationship with this girl you have to put some effort in too. If you're leaving all the communication and plan-making up to her she might drift off and loose interest. Think about how much you care for her before you have that chat. Good luck.
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Coming from someone who has been on the "clingy" side of one or two relationships, I know that we have to be told very directly that we are being to clingy. Make sure to tell her that you love her and that you want to be with her, but don't sugar coat the situation. It's something that can get worse, for both people, if you let it go on. Another tip - maybe avoid directly using the word "clingy" - even though it's something that I identify as myself, I know that it can be insulting to people. Just explain the situations that you wrote about here, and how you felt.