How can I stop myself from liking someone?

So this guy… I’m finding myself falling for him day by day. But I can’t like this dude, because first, I don’t do relationships — I’ve always had commitment issues, so it’s almost sort of a part of my lifestyle, because I want to maintain my freedom; second, that guy obviously doesn’t and shouldn’t (for social reasons) have romantic feelings for me — we are also probably too similar in nature, both have quite strong personalities, so even although we have good conversations, I really don’t think we are compatible; third, I’m feeling miserable because I hate myself when I can’t keep my cool — I hate myself for giggling like a silly little girl after seeing him…

Also… there really isn’t a way to avoid contact with him. We meet at the office everyday, really.

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: falling in love falling out of love love uncertain uncomfortable feeling asked February 22, 2014

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thewanderer

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If you really want to stop liking him, distance yourself from him (basically, avoid him). Because proximity is your enemy here. However, you're basically saying you're not worth being liked, and you shouldn't have that kind of attitude. I've never been in a relationship either, and the fact that you haven't been in one shouldn't stop you. In order to get experience in it, you need to be in one. The first time isn't going to be perfect, but that's okay. Also, don't feel miserable for being nervous around him. It's normal!!!

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SilentRain

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The only realistic way I can think of that would stop you liking someone is to just spend less and less time with them. Alternatively, find people with the same attributes that you like about him.

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Fat Cat

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