How can i overcome this?

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I’m 18 a college student living at home, going to communtiy college. My household is so dysfunctional. I try no to be home as much as possible, by working and going to school. But when i come home things hit me twice as hard. I live in the ghetto, and i only live with my mother, and her friend. They are not together, he doeesn claim her, he’s very lazy, selfish, and annoying. He’s not a man at all. My mom is always yelling at him, and yelling a me she alwasy does yell at me shes emotinally abusive. They are one big headache, and im trying to better life, and this just bother me a lot. Because of where im from and somethings i dont yet have, i feel like im not good enough, or can even relate to somethings with most people. Im sure m y mom abuses pain killers, she always seems so slow, tired,aggressive,selfish, uncaring,hyper. I’m just tired of putting up with her behavior, and how she treats me. I can not move out since i dont have my own car but i have a licensee, and i dont want to depend on anyone to ake me to where i need to go. It’s bad enough i have to get yelled at and questioned by her when i need to go somewhere. So to sum it up , im living in a crazy house and i need to get away! This is really affecting my mood all the time,a nd sometimes i can not even focus on school work or even sleep. Today i feel really sad, i’m never this low.

Category: Tags: asked October 27, 2013

4 Answers

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Hi. You sound like you have a lot going on in your life. Have you considered talking to a counsellor at your college? They may be able to give you options you haven't thought of. Good on you for working so hard. Best of luck to you.
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I've had (and still have) an issue almost exactly like this, especially because I'm positive my mother abuses painkillers as well. I'm also working on getting out of the house but that's still a work in progress. My advice to you is that if it's truly bothering you that much like it bothered me, try and distance yourself from it all until you can get out. When you're home find a hobby or something that is fun to you and just try your best to not think about everything that is going on around you. It's not easy, I know it's not easy from experience. But after I had to deal with it for so long, I decided to just find something that would make me feel better. Considering you don't have a car or anything moving I guess isn't an option, so like I said you just need to try and distance yourself from it until you CAN get out. But I know how you feel, and I'm truly sorry you're going through all of that. I sincerely hope things get better soon.
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For now, counseling might help, confiding in friends, journaling, things of the sort. I think you're wise to distance yourself.

But really, the solution is to work your butt off. Go to school, get jobs. Use public transportation to get around or carpool with friends (/siblings if you have them). Save all of your money, because money means options. It's not going to be easy, but at 18, you're technically responsible for yourself. You should be able to get 0 Expected Contribution on your FAFSA if your mom is impoverished, so at least you'll have financial aid to help. If it is really that toxic of an environment, all you can do is work hard to get out asap.
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Is there a friend you can move in with, or temporarily stay with until you can save enough to get a place of your own? It'll be hard, but if you don't have a job, GET ONE. Find a bus route you can take to work and maybe get a job on campus so it'll fit into your class schedule. But most importantly, study hard. Maybe you can get scholarships and transfer to a University. They provide more benefits and a better educations Best of luck to you :)