How Can I Not Take Things So Harsh

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Recently I just broke up with my Ex of a year and five months.
And Ive been trying to keep myself busy, hang out with friends and, when I come home I try to catch up on TV shows Ive never finished, or doing covers, and dancing.

But today I was cleaning my room and I found my exs snuggie…. I know it sounds dramatic, and I sound extremely emotional, but I am, especially when I love him so much.

I just started to brake down, and I grab one of shirts he gave me with his name on it, and I graved the bag I gave him on Christmas that he returned with my things in it. And I started to pack away his stuff, and take out two little picture things (you get at a photo booth) from us earlier when we were dating and one from my prom. But I threw out the meaningful things, like his corsage from prom, and our Christmas stockings…. W.e

Point is, im trying to distract myself, and whenever I do start to miss him, I would read all the reasons (I keep a pros, and cons) of why we didn’t work. But its difficult when I want to text someone because i don’t have any friends, and the two friends i have don’t text me as much, or I want to tell someone great news, but i have no one who really cares, or im having a bad day and i want someone to cheer me up, or when my mom starts to complain at me about ridiculous things.

I don’t know how to let it go, and i miss him so much and i have the only urge to run to his house (we live a block away from each other) and have him come downstairs and hug him to death, But i know the reason why im not going to do that.

Can someone please help, its depressing, and i feel really lonely at times like this.

Category: Tags: asked March 5, 2014

2 Answers

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I know exactly how that is. I was with my ex for three and a half years. We broke up about six months ago and I'm still heartbroken about it. He was my best friend really and now he has a new girlfriend and a new life. I feel so lonely without him and I would do anything to have him back. It takes a lot of time to get over something so important to you. Especially an ex who has consumed most of your time and that you've shared so much with. My suggestion, continuing keeping busy. Start doing random little things to make yourself happy. Just tell yourself that things are going to get better. Some days, you're not going to believe that but if you can get past those days then you can get past anything. Once you start believing that things will get better, they will. Some days you will be depressed and that's normal. Sometimes you need days to yourself. Watch sad movies, cry. It never hurts to cry. It actually makes me feel better. It's going to get better. But as people say, time heals all. I think it just depends on how you use your time though. Have some sad days but never let the sad days overpower the good days. You can always talk to me if you want. Sometimes talking to someone helps as well. You'll get through this, I believe in you.
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Don't force yourself to get over him. It can take up to 18 months to get over a relationship that lasted 4.It's going to take time, and probably a lot of it.I would suggest, trying to make new friends, make plans with your friends now, keep a journal, read a horror novel, write a novel, watch movies, watch television series. Do anything to keep you active and involved. Heck, volunteer at your local animal shelter.It's going to take time, you can't force yourself to get over him overnight. What you're feeling is normal. If you want to talk to someone, my inbox is open.