How can I make people not scared of me?

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People often describe me as a scary/intimidating person. One of the most common things I hear people call me is a monster, because I kind of look like one. I have trouble expressing emotions and that also scares people because, I don’t smile or laugh really. the friends that I do have call me scary and when I get angry they back away because they think I’m going to hit them. Even my ex thought I was going to beat her when I got upset. Thats the thing though is even though I have done many martial arts, I would never hit someone (outside of self defense) with the intent to hurt them. I have only lost my temper and hit someone once and after that I went to anger management and joined cadets and joined a martial art with the intent of being able to control myself. I’m a teenager and I try to take responsibility for my actions, but it really hurts that people are scared of me. Its like people don’t even want to come near me.

Category: asked December 9, 2014

3 Answers

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I guess smile more around people, learn how you can purposely behave in a way that lets the people around you know how you feel inside about them. Sometimes it takes adjusting your body language, sometimes it takes sitting down and share your emotions and thoughts with someone you care about. At the beginning it might feel forced, but as it becomes a habit it will be more natural.
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I actually have a roommate that makes her look "mean" aswell. She learned to cope with it you know? It's probably hard for you to express yourself because of how people judged you and it's understandable. I just think you shouldn't worry about other peoples opinions and what they think of you. Everyone is different, but dont worry because almost every one of us judges one another. You can smile if you want and "look" less mean
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Just try to be more open with the way you present yourself. Sometimes our body language says things about us. If you stand with your arms crossed or always have a serious face or if your stance is menacing, then people will be intimidated by you. I am sure you don't look like a monster. But believe a smile goes a long way. I had a a lot of people tell me I looked mean and aggressive lol And I am the complete opposite. I made a conscious effort to smile more and have open body language and believe me it works. Try it :) Good luck!!