I will admit I sometimes cut but I’m getting better. She’s the reason why I’ve been trying to stop. Today she just told me that she’s been cutting too because of her mom and people at school bully her and she’s really depressed. It makes me so sad to know she’s going through this. I cut sometimes to but I don’t care about myself I want her to stop cutting and know that I’m always here for her. She’s been trying to do the butterfly project to keep from cutting because that’s what I’ve been doing but it’s not really helping her. Is there anything else I can do?
Keep trying to stop, its hard, god its hard but in the end you feel so much and so proud, and please remember that relapsing does not mean you are weak, its means that you are trying (:
Ask your friend if she has tried the paper chain project. Its where for every day you dont cut you put a coloured link in your paper chain, and if you have a day where you do cut then you add a white link. After a while you can see how many colourful links and how many whites. It will show your struggle and in the end you can look back at it and be proud of how far you come. At the start of your chain it might be all white links, but the longer the chain gets the less white links there will be (: This probably didnt help much, but if you ever need to talk, im here (:
You should first try to make yourself better before you try to make someone else better. As my mom says, sweep out from under your own doorstep before you try to sweet someone else's. The best thing you can do is be an example to her. SHOW her that she shouldn't be cutting by showing her that its possible to stop.
I'm not saying fix yourself. I know that its hard, I've had experience with it. But i'm saying the best thing you can do is be there for her, and you can't do that if you're harming yourself. She's getting the impression that its okay and that you'll let her because you do. I'm saying be an example to her, a good example.
Great advice from LeighAyn, I'd like to add that finding a creative outlet to channel your pain can really help. Use something you're passionate about, and this can help you long-term. I'm in the same boat you are with my best friend, and its hard, but we're getting through it. Stay strong:)
First of all I'm going to tell you that in my friendship I am the cutter. My best friend has cut once but she stopped. You need to talk to her, in person. It may be awkward but it'll mean a lot more to her. Say something to start up the conversation such as "I really don't wanna bring this up" and proceed to tell her how much you love her. Then just straight out tell her "It hurts me a lot when you cut yourself, I understand how much it feels like its helping obviously but I want you to stop" and give her a big hug. One thing you might consider doing is holding out your wrist and saying "Everytime you want to cut youself do it to me instead" And she'll me horrified by the idea. And then say "If you don't want to hurt me like that then why would you want to do that to yourself?"
i would just be there for her. let her know she can trust you, and dont really worry so muhc about "fixing her" or "fixing yourself" getting better isnt something you can just do by taping up a few things..you and her will stop cutting when youre ready, just be there for each other. hope this helps, stay strong!